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After re-reading all the posts on this thread, I see a few new things.
SierraMissed....we posted at the same time again. I think I will go to work....can't afford not to now.
Tanelornpete.....you and CarenMc have the same quote in you signature line. Of course, I mis-quoted, but the idea was the same. The truth of it is the same.
Mel, after re-reading your post about operating from anger, I have looked over things in my situation, and with almost calculated determination, I have made my decision go to Plan B.
I DO see that this is the only way to save my M.
I have always operated from the idea that I would never do or say anything to hurt another person, but if said person did anything to hurt me, I would suck it up, and say nothing.
I would not stand up for my feelings. But, I had no one to teach me how to do that. The older I get, the more I learn, and the more willing I am to stand up for myself.
Now, I am going to take the ultimate step, and stand up for what I believe in.....it's a risk, but if I lose my M by standing up for myself, then I will have at least gained some self respect.
And if my M can't withstand my standing up for myself and my feelings, that what did I have anyway?
HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM....
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by k72172:
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Now, I am going to take the ultimate step, and stand up for what I believe in.....it's a risk, but if I lose my M by standing up for myself, then I will have at least gained some self respect.
K </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">K, excellent points and I am so glad you are thinking hard about this! I would only add that you are more likely to lose your marriage by *NOT* standing up for yourself. If you don't stand up for yourself, then he has no motivation to end the affair.
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Mel......
To see that I DO have to stand up for myself, and risk losing my M, is to say the least, hard to do.
But, like always, you put a positive spin on it. Doing something worthwhile is always a risk.
I think, in the end, either way, I gain myself. My self-respect. And a whole lot of personal strength.
Now, to compose my short Plan B letter.....
Thanks Mel....
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