WW is focused like a laser beam on flying in from Europe with DS8 to file paperwork next week for a divorce. 90 day waiting time starts. She's almost hyperventilating that she has to wait 90 days. She KEEPS asking, are you going to stop me, are you going to have me arrested, are you going to do something? Are you going to keep me from getting on a flight?? You can have everything in the divorce. "The kids, my money, the houses, just let me go" said WW.

Does paranoia go along with infidelity?? She says she never loved me. She's an ocean away from OM. She wants to be alone. She doesn't want to hurt me again. She can't be married to me anymore. She never was in love with me. Her ex-boyfriend was her True Love. The OM(19) was not practical, but it let her know she can have "those feelings". She thinks we could still date. She thinks counseling with Steve Harley is a waste of time, but she'll do it for me. She keeps asking if I'm OK.

I told her, "Yes, I'm fine. Feel pretty good. I can't worry about things I can't control. I've always said we should be happy. If you don't want to be happy with me, we need to be happy with someone else."

She replies with silence.

You know, I've got a Masters Degree in Engineering and can troubleshoot a commercial airplane from nose to tail, but

I do not get it!!!!! What is she thinking???? $10 to the first person with a reasonable answer. I DARE you.
$15 to a FWW.

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Hi, Sleepless.

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I hope you do get your son home.

I strongly suggest you take her at her word, and see if she will sign paperwork to substantiate her statement. At least that way, when or if you recover your marriage, then she and you will have something left to return to. Even if you think you want to be 'fair', at least get sole custody of your son.

I am going to be very firm with you here. She wants you to take custody of your son. I don't care what else you do, but if there is an ounce of fatherhood in you, then you burn down the gates of hell if you must to get your young son away from her.

The fact that she would even mention them as a part of the bargain is unconscionable.

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She has someone in mind and she wants to be free of you to explore it. From what you said, it looks to be her Ex-boyfriend. Either that or considering the issue of the time frame, maybe she is pregnant.

I watched my mother do almost the same thing as your wife. I had been away from home for a while and my younger brother had recently set out on his own, so that wasn't an issue. But my youngest brother was 9 years old. My mother made the same offer to my father. Take it all, including the youngest, just let her go.

Take care of your youngest. He doesn't need to be where he is not wanted.

Gimble

U make a dare that can't be beaten.....$10.00 to give a reasonable answer to an illogical event? Ha..... No can do. What I can do is tell you how to deal with it.

U take the lemon of the A and plan A until you are comfortable with your self improvements. Shore up your family's finances and other securities (living arrangements, etc.), then if the your W is still a WS, then go to plan B with a blast. Full force. U b the reasonable one as far as dealing with your children and other necessities but do NOT I repeat do NOT succumb to the stupid requests, tantrums or demands of a WS.

Got it?

L.

Thank you ladies. I've printed out your responses for reference and they're going into my binder.

While I'm in Plan A, We'll share our son. He'll be back here for the summer and the divorce will not be final until the middle of July.

While I'm counseling with Steve I'm not going to hit Plan B. Since I know the OM is still in contact with her and she's DEFINITELY hung up on him... in the fog for him.

I need to be reminded that the things coming out of her mouth are not truthful. I've always been able to count on her honesty with me, and I can't count on that now. She keeps asking if I'm lying or conspiring. Could it be because that's her current mindset?

Hi SnS,

My bet is that someone (BF?) is feeding this to her. 'Get SnS nailed down while he's still agreeable, before he gets angry'. Or someone else who went through a bad D, themselves?

Someone is telling her that you being nice is only a ploy, and that she should not trust you. Apparently, she doesnt believe them totally, because she keeps asking you these stupid questions! Someone has her all worried that you are going to fight this.

She see's you and DS as the only things between her and her happiness. Would BF being saying he wont commit/move/whatever until after the D? (Is he that honorable?!?)

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Hang in there, get your son, and be strong. She's dangerous, imho... Please take care - Dru