Congratulate me! I'm in the midst of Plan A and I see it working. I feel better about myself. I don't spend quite so much feeling sorry for my situation. Why should how I feel about myself be dependent on someone else? I'm going to work out again today, clean my house, clean my carpets and when I got to bed tonight I will be proud of myself. I am a stronger, more resilient, less naive woman now. And you know what? I like this woman. For the first time in my life I feel good about myself because of me, not because of someone else.

I spent a lot of time feeling sorry for myself because I thought that I wasn't desirable (in whole) as a woman and that's why H strayed. But the truth is, since this happened I have come to realize what a prize I really am!! I'm young, beautiful, vibrant, talented, intelligent, loving, fun, and loyal. What more could you ask for guys?? Really??

Even if H never realizes how valuable I am, I know how valuable I am. And I say *cheers* to me for being the A+ chick that I am!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

way to self-respect, girl !<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

whats your situation ?

I disagree

this is not a

"small victory"

I think it is in fact a mid-sized victory at least, if not an actual large victory !

GREAT JOB at discovering one of the best things about Plan A

~self-respect~

Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thanks, Bob. Short story: H had EA online. Now they are "just friends" but I have made it loud and clear that I will be second to NO woman and that he will have to phase her out. Exposure was about a week or so ago. Funny thing...now that it's been exposed they talk more. Everything that he gives to her he is taking from me. I'm not sure if he even realizes that. But what he isn't giving me right now I'm giving myself. I can't live wondering if I'm good enough for him. I already know that I'm good enough for me and that's really all I need. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

What wonderful smile-making positive words. TT

Pepperband,
Thank you for recognizing that! It is awefully enpowering to know this. No matter which way H goes, I am in control. Of me. And what is more valuable than that? I control my destiny. I write my story. I open my doors. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

To loves oneself is a grand and powerful prize, never to be taken for granted. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

can I hear an ~AMEN~

Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />