I feel that me and my wife are on the path to recovery and that it will take time. But it really bothers me that she will not admit to have had having sex with the OM. I know that she did because she admitted it to her friend that then told me, and even after I confronted her about it her she still admitted to her friend while denying it to me. Things have have been getting better the past couple of weeks and when I have brougth it up she does not deny it anymore, but she will not confirm it either and says that she is simply done with the subject. She seems to have told me basically everything else except for the sex, and I raised my concerns about her health and said she needs to get checked out (not a concern for my health at this time as she is still sleeping on the couch).
My concern is that will I ever really be able to get over it if she can't confess it to me? I try to avoid the subject because of my concern that it will make withdrawls from her Love Bank, but it still comes up occasionally through conversation and it is incredibly difficult for me to get off the subject because I want so badly for her to be honest with me.
The affair seemed to mostly toward the one night stand part of the affair scale. She was unhappy in the marriage and a guy that she found attractive showed interest in her (even though he knew she was married), and I realize it stirred some emotions in her she hadn't felt in our marriage in a long time, he invited her to a bar which she went to several times and as far as I can find out she was kissing him on one occasion while drunk and a second time she ended up sleeping with the guy one time when she was very drunk. She stopped it after that and tried to be just friends with him. The just friends thing is over now but she does infrequently run in to him around town.......
Last edited by blaze28; 04/29/05 11:41 AM.
