I basically am three months from filing for divorce. My wife gets caught but will not discuss it. I refuse to let her run around on me and take her secrets to her grave. I have Plan A'd for long enough and I am moving on. My frame of mind is good and I have not required any AD. I have kept up a good exercise schedule at the gym and this has helped tremendously. About once a month I have a week when I require an adult beverage after work to relax and to think. I was having one yesterday in the back porch swing when the wife walks out on the back porch. She starts talking about what we are going to do when we get the house paid off(nine years from now) and renovations that she would like to make. I could not see my facial expressions during this but it must have been priceless. She gets caught with OM, refuses to discuss it, quits MC, we sleep in separate bedrooms and I have not touched her in almost nine months. She has made no attemts to help me with my grief or anguish. She has done nothing to try and put our M back on solid ground. Yet, she calmly walks out and starts this conversation. This is too much!!! I either married an alien or there are wires and circuits under her skin. What kind of person is this?

An authentic certified conflict avoider, that's who.

Pep<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Bob,

WHile I think Pep has identified the classification of this creature, I think we need WAT over here to tell what planet she is from. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

2Long and I would vote for Mars, but we know that cannot be for two reasons. 1. She is a female. 2. Doesn't seem to be any creatures of her type on Mars.

Now Venus is a good bet, but the surface temperature is that of a self-cleaning oven, so one would expect a WARM natured creature. Upon further reflection, perhaps you really have to have a cooling system to exist on Venus, so maybe... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Nevertheless, I think you realize that if you are thinking of leaving you might as well tell her so that she can start to make plans and you can start to make plans. It just might shock her, as her conflict avoiding will have failed. But, I would NOT suggest divorce unless YOU are ready for it.

So what do you think? Venus? Or could I suggest a moon with ice on it, such as those around Jupiter OR an atmosphere such as Titan? Lot's of room for discovery here.

I would suggest talking to her and seeking her true origin and thoughts.

God Bless,

JL