Well guys tomorrow is the first court date. Should be setting child support, custody, visitation and of course persuing order to keep Ow away from my children. Just found out OW had my kids in the car with her and was racing WH to thier home. This kinda behavior is really disturbing to me. It is dangerous to be racing but with children in the car that is plain stupid. I am so sick of this mess. I do not want this divorce but since he has filed and I live in a no fault state I have no choices but to go along with it. Theses laws really Suck big time. One person gets all the say and the other is given no choice in it at all. How is this fair.
Have gotten bankruptcy taken care of signed those today. Let MIL know they where ready to sign. Said she would pass it on. Also found out WH contacted her before she came over today to inquire on us. But at least he now understands no contact. But it is hard but I know it is ness. to my wel being. Maintaining contact with him just leaves me open to more hurt and abuse from the WH. Plan B at least I have some peace. I do miss him though.

I know court hearings can be nerve-wracking.

My prayers are with you tomorrow.

Sounds like you have more than enough evidence that OW shouldn't be around your kids. You must get worried sick. I would go crazy.

Stay strong, and best of luck tomorrow.

NTL

it is really nerve wracking when his time for vists come around. I worry my self sick about those weekends. But Wh doesn't see a problem with it he see's it as normal also they have been putting my 2 year old in bed with them. I wonder what can be done about over nights if i can't get the order to keep OW away from my children.

Joanna -

Good Luck!!!! Please let us know if you get your wishes with keeping OW away from your kids. That's awful.

Stay strong.

Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS, age 6
Married 13 years
WH left on Friday. Official Plan B starts tomorrow.

I will keep you posted all of you have helped me deal with this mess more then you will ever know

Can you have him pick up the children via a 3rd party? It is very hard with young children.

Sending you support from way out in the middle of the big blue.

Hugz,
L.

thanks guys nothing really got done today except ordered child support and set . The rest we have hearings set for that and a final date is in mid april ain't that funny no quicky here

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> WTF ???????

OK ... here's what I might do ... call the pediatrician ... ask if this may cause harm ... get documentation from a professional that having your child sleep IN THE BED with 2 people having an affair against the child's mother's wishes is detremental to that child's well-being.

If the pediatrician seems soft on this ... go elsewhere ... to a psychologist or a social worker... PLEASE document that you at least attempted to get this disgusting behavior STOPPED !!!

*YUK* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

some adulterors are soooooooooo

stupid

Now Pep,

You know ALL adulterers are stupid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

( note: for all those "naysayers" I quote: stupid: defintion: tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes;marked by a lack of intelligence or care; foolish or careless )

Joanna,

Good luck with the court hearings.You're not alone.I sat in a room full of Lawyers and my STBXWH last week and boy,was that fun. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Stay strong! And whatever you can get your Lawyer to do about keeping the homewrecker away from your kids,do so.That is a major no-no in my state and there are laws against it when the parents aren't D'd yet.

By the way,my WH is a 4 day a month(eow) "dad" too(part time dad as he called himself).

O

Plan on working on this. Have a counseler who agrees with me and I am a personnal friend of her ped. Have that covered but there is nothing I can do about the vists now. Only had 15 min and not enough time to cover the issues. Plus stupids att. Was going on about how I got his whole paycheck for 2 months after he left. Yeah I was paying his bills and didn't have a job and he dang sure wasn't helping me find one. But I got it covered. I have recipts

Joanna -

I so hope this gets worked out quickly. $$ is replaceable. It just blows me away that this is going on. Does OW think she can replace you as "mommy" and she is "pretending" to be "mommy"??? That is just sick.

Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS, age 6
Married 13 years
Plan B 10-11-05

Yep she does just like she thinks she is replacing me as his wife. I feel for her when he wakes up and he will given time. Stupid people make me angry and they just don't know just how i will get my justice. I don't have to touch them or even speak to them. The court will award me half of everything or he will have to pay me the half unless he wants to sell it all. I love equal property laws.

Any body out there who can help me with the evidance i need to keep trashy husband stealer away from my kids it would be app. very much I have some stuff but need other stuuf just not sure what else is needed. wish i could get her on something criminal. that would really top it off and keep her away from my kids. DD12 can't have a vist with her dad due to she doesn't want to be around OW and he will not make other arrange ments to spend time with her. It breaks my heart because she love him and wants to spend time with him not the ow. yuck

How do you know she wants to replace you? I understand the feeling but what evidence do you have? Let's pick your brain so that all the rocks are overturned to produce the evidence of the real causes.

IMHO, if the OW wants an American over her H (who is probably Korean), that w/b some sort of a conquest. These Asian women think having a American is like a trophy. Ask your WS if he likes being a trophy vs a person.

I am not prejudice with this statement. It is a sad fact for many of the Asian community. Not all think this way but many do. OWs are notorious for this line of illogic.

L.

Okay a little confused they are both amercian I think they are just stupi. Ow really plays up to DD2 and makes it seem as if she is such a good mother. That is a croch I talked to her ex husband she is a crappy mother she leaves her kids with anyone who will take them. She is only play acting to suck up to my WH.

Well got a bit of bad and good news today. Arrived at daycare to pick up DD2. They told me she could not return without a dr statement saying she was not contageous. Well the jist of it is everytime she vists WH she comes home covered in insect bites of some sort. I thought fleas or misquetos? well I would treat them but they took forever to heal and then it was time to go to WH house again. And the cycle begins again. Well rough day pick up DD2 take DD12 to dental appt. Find somewhere to take DD@ for treatment. Find it get MIL to stay with DD12. See DR find out they are not flea bites or misqueto's they are bed bug bites. Wonderful. Neither I or my DD12 have any bites anywhere. I have an exterminator in here once a month. Bed bugs do not reside here. Got a statement from her DR and will turn it over to my Att. Mil knows so she is sure to pass info along to Wh about the bugs. Yuck this is disgusting to even think about. Ya lay down with dogs ya gonna get flea or in this case bed bugs. But my child should not have to suffer because of it.

DOCUMENT
DOCUMENT
DOCUMENT

keep a diary-journal of what is going on with the kid(s) when they go to visitation, and what happened after visitation

ie; bug bites, or crying, thumb-sucking .... anything you notice

Get your pediatrician on board

DOCUMENT

Call the 12-year-old's school and ask for an appointment with a counselor ... and tell counselor child's home in chaos, there is serious marital issues and there is 3rd person (OW) being shoved into kid(s) lives pretty much uninvited .... ask for help and guidance to help child ... do NOT bash H or OW to the counselor, but do make accurate and complete description of what is going on

if there is a future custody hearing, these people can be called as witnesses and your diary-journal will come in handy too

Yep i have been documenting illnesses, excessive crying, late drop offs. have a statement from dr for this last one. Have talked to my IC about information and expert op on OW in childrens lives. I am really trying to cover my bases. I have a note book I carry and even have people willing to come to court and speak on my behalf. I record everything. No way will i lose this battle.

Oops, am I getting my MB stories mixed up? Sorry.

Bed bugs?!?!?! He trades his family for an OW and bed bugs?!?!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

How quickly can you report this to a child services agency? Let them know that the WS via the OW provides an infested environment of which you do not feel it is safe to send any of your children. Can you tell your lawyer? Will the doctor cooberate?

L.