Hi,

I would like some ideas on tracking H messages from his mobile. When I look at them the sent items box is gone. And he deletes the incoming ones regularly. Is it a way of tracking deleted messages? The bill gets sent home for his attention and I have nothing to do with it. Not even sure where he files it!

For my story see'MC, shall I bother? post.

Thanks for any ideas!

If it's his personal phone, an online account can be opened to look at the list of numbers. All that is required is his personal information to establish the account.

Not sure if I understand. It is his personal mobile phone. When you mean online, which website? the mobile phone provider? won't I need an e-mail and password that he has given? Which information would I need to track numbers online?

Thanks, cannot think very straight!

Hi mawb,

I read your other thread..and then came over here.

Quote:(Be prepared for all kinds of crazy explanations. I remember someone saying their WS said he was talking to himself in the car---and that he didn't know who the other voice on the recorder was!!)

That would be me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I don't know if I should qualify this: The other voice is distinguishable in one spot (she says "right") at least to me and my friends. And not that easily heard in another spot ...Had tape cleaned up and need computer to hear it! He also says "You need to see this from my perspective" on the tape. No MCs will touch any of this (the lies),except SH (tried that). The lies are still there!

Anyways, that is a long story..It happened ~3 years ago. The others here are right, Don't just let this go. Maybe you can,I have tried and have not been able to. My H will NOT help me get over this. He has promised not to lie anymore(he was lying to me about things he was complaining about on the tape) and he did, 3mths later. About the girl i suspected him of having an A with at work, she called the house, he said it was nobody...Few other things over the years. Things that would be little, except for that ONE Big Possible Lie still in the way. I still snoop. He lied to me about girls at work and his interactions with them (innocent, but lied) just last Apr. I made him move out for ~2 mths. Issues are already resurfacing again. The biggest being that he cannot/will not see that it is not the actions that I lose my cool over, it is the lies about these actions...

Sorry , rambled again. So, you know that I did the tape recorder in the car thing. This is a great way to snoop, but be careful. And if it is mostly email and text, this won't help. If you think that this will help you, it can be relatively cheap. Place the recorder somewhere where he won't find it, of course. Under the driver's seat there are often braces, I could squish mine in there and then run a mike up the seat cover. You may get a lot of background and radio. They often tho, turn down the radio when on the phone.

Get a digital voice recorder with as much recording time as you can afford. these go from $30 - hundreds. Must have voice activation on it. These are available at Walmarts, OfficeMax, RadioShack...(don't know what you have there) Also many online. You may want more than one, so you can switch them out and listen to one...there is also a type that you can upload the recording to your computer (a great idea, don't have that one). These recorders are sold for dictating purposes, mostly. There are also spystores on the web, some have neatlooking stuff, some look overpriced for the same junk as at RadioShack.

One person here tracked her H with a GPS. She would download it at the end of the week. Great idea, but if my H is/was doing anything, he is/was probably riding from office with her (not in his car, too leary now). The GPS cost her ~$300, I have the link somewhere if you want it.

I hope this has helped, hopefully others can help with the texts, we just don't use ours..I did however go online for awhile and check the cellphone bill without him knowing. Needed the number and his social sec #, I think that is all. Our bills show outgoing numbers only, incoming only show up as that, incoming call, no numbers.

Again good luck, sorry you are here, but this place has saved my sanity more than once!

jls

mawb,
If your WH already has the online account set up you will need his passwords...if not you can set up the account yourself, you will need his personal info and cell # and the SIM number for the phone.(If you can check his phone that number is probably in the menu under phone info or listed on the phone under the battery) You could call customer service for the cell phone co and say you are concerned about messages a minor child is sending /recieving on the phone and ask how you could monitor. Costumer service can be very helpful.They probably wouldn't help if you said you were seeking info on WH especially if account is in his name.

confused is right, I set up the online bill...he did not already have an online account.

jls

FWIW, I have Verizon and asked about tracking text messaging and with Verizon, it is NOT possible. All you can do is see the call history. In this history are origination and destination numbers along with area.

In my case, my WW was/is calling OM who lives in Texas aka, another state. This was easy. Look at the call history and I could see all the calls made to Texas. No one we knew lived in Texas, so I knew the calls were to the OM. But get ready for a shock. Once you see the call history, you can then break down the times and dates, and in my case, many calls were made after I was asleep. W would sneak off into another room and call.

Now, as of Oct 17, Verizon has made available all incoming numbers too. So, you can now see on Verizon all the incoming numbers and find out who is calling the phone, and not just simply the calls being made from the phone.

But, as I said, with Verizon, there is no way to track text messages. Best bet is to call the provider.

With me, we have a family plan and my name is on the account and I password protected the account. I didn't want my kids to call up and add options and such without me knowing about it. Turns out, now I am glad I did that.

Basically, my W was amazed that I was able to see all the calls. When the bill comes, it is just a basic statement without all the call details. But since I have the account set up online, I can view the entire bill along will all the call history. You might be able to erase the call log on the phone, but you cannot erase the call log on the actual phone bill. I can only say it was a real eye opener.

As for recorders, I went that route too, and I would caution anyone against it seeing that in most states it is ILLEGAL to purposely tape a private converstaion without the parties consent. Now, I did say ILLEGAL. You could go to jail along with a fine.

In my case, my W found the recorder because it malfunctioned and made a noise. She kept the tape BTW, and I'm sure if we go to a D, she could use that against me, even though she says she had/has forgiven me. I've been trying to find the tape with no luck!

So, be careful. I know you want to know, but realize that taping or recording calls without the callers consent is in most states ILLEGAL. Again, FWIW, I only recorded for one day and found out all I needed to know. I just forgot to unhook the machine and the next day it malfunctioned!

my 2 cents.

fox40