My wife was seeing a male therapist for a while when I found out about her multiple affairs with people from work. After d-day, we had a session together with him. I expressed my insecurities about her seeing him. It was nothing personal, I just preferred her seeing a female therapist instead for obvious reasons, so she stopped seeing him and has been shopping around for someone else. Her kids are still seeing the same therapist.
Tonight she took her son for one of his sessions. I asked him afterwards, in private, if he enjoyed his 1 hour session. He said he only did 30 minutes... my wife did the other half.
I am so numb at this point. I thought all the lies were behind us. I don't know if I should even be hurt. She is after all seeking help, even if it is behind my back. Maybe I'm just trying to justify her actions to make it seem less deceiptful. I've lost all respect for that therapist. He must've known she was there under secrecy.
I haven't confronted my wife yet. I'm not eager to as I know it will blow up into an argument.

One question - do you have children with this woman?

yes. We have a 4 year old son. This is going to sound crazy, because it is. She went off of her birth control pills after dating me for a few weeks. She insists we both agreed on it. I don't recall having such a conversation. Regardless, I married her to "do the right thing". In the following years I fell in love with her.

I am beginning to realize that I married a women with major mental issues. Please don't pass judgement on my past decisions. At the time they seemed logical.

I'm here to support you and your decisions. It is quite obvious that your wife has some serious problems, one of them being that she is a serial cheater who thinks she doesn't have a problem. She also is a liar.

If you didn't have a child, I would encourage you to leave the marriage.

I just spoke with her. I didn't tell her what I knew. I just said I know of a lie. I told her this was a chance for her to come clean. She acted clueless. I told her if she didn't confess, I'd think the worst: that there were multiple lies and she didn't want to confess to the wrong lie. This only made her angrier.
I asked her what I should do if there was truly a lie. She told me I should divorce her because it will likely happen again... if there was even a lie.
Is this her way of saying "LEAVE ME!"?

I have no way of knowing, and I am certaining not making excuses as I myself am tired of the lies in my own marriage...but is it possible that she was talking to the counselor about her son? It is very common for the therapist to talk to the child and then bring the parent in later for discussion. Just a thought.

she asked her son if i inquired about his session today (i overheard...snooping). only after he told her about my inquiries, she finally admitted to what she did.
I asked if she meant what she said.... to file for divorce if there was a lie. She is so stubborn... she said yes.. "divorce me". Does she mean it???????????

im' going crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

At this point, file the D or go to plan B..... r u done with your personal improvements (aka: plan A)?

L.