I had to call to the ow house to speak to wh -it was urgent finacial matter and i got the shock of the day,
I spoke to vanessa. My wh was not there- he was on the way to drop off what he was suppose to.
Vanessa tells me (and i was not confrontational or nasty)
Winter- i am sorry that i got involved with your wh. I regret evry doing anything and getting in this mess. I told him to go home to you and you family. Iam not fighting for him anymore. I was pulling at him and so were you,and i know he wants to do the right thing and it seems like he is going to have a nervous breakdown anytime now. He does not share anything with me orcomes near me. I am done with him and this situation. Keep doing what youare doing and he will be back home. Im not fighting for him anymore.
hmmmmmm...........(she told me all this word for word)
This is after for the last week he is telling me how he is meeting with irs and has to get hismoney together and his life, his job is on the line, he wants to get an apartment by hisself or move back home orwith hismom. He needs time to think and doesnt want to be with anyone at the moment.
How he feels used, that pride will keep a person from moving forward.
I have been dealing with him talking about not having money,hating his job, saying im doing better without himetc.
does this sound true, its spiralling down?

bump up please

winter,

Well, all that OW spiel may be true( or not!) it doesn't matter what she thinks.What matters is what your WH does .Who knows if the A is spiraling down.It doesn't always mean "Honey I'm home".Just be careful and watch HIS *actions ok? Remember,the OW was being used for whatever turmoil your WH was going through internally.

I hope this does mean good news but keep your guard up.

Hang in there~

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Hi Winterkisses,

If OW is done with him, why does she let him stay with her? I agree with the poster above, it doesn't matter what the OW says, only what your WH does.

Your WH probably could use some time on his own to figure things out. Keep doing what you've been doing. If he really wants to come home then ask him that all important question, "Why?" Listen to his answer! Is he really ready?

He does sound like he's starting see glimpses through the fog. Hang in there.

Hes so mean today- i tried to talk to him he was suppose to come and take boys out after school today. - all i got was im having a really bad day- leave me alone. This is not about your world winter. Its not as winter turns.
I have a lot on me and my mind and i have a lot on me.
I said fine. I need people to back off me he says.