I only just caught this



Oh, if you only knew.

My A ended in June 2003 because the OM wouldn't leave his wife. My A was a true exit A. I would have been gone in a flash.

My H found out in October 2003 by finding relationship books I had hidden. He asked me and I confessed. I thought that would be it. I thought and hoped I would be out the door the next day.

The next day was probably one of the worst of both of our lives. We made an appointment with an MC (out of the phone book) and went that afternoon. For perhaps two or three months we went twice a week which was wonderful for both of us. I was told to grow up basically. But...from June I had been grieving in private for the OM, once it was in the open I was a complete pain in the a** to my H.

I said, we can stay married. Does it matter if I don't love you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Slowly I began to feel some closeness again with my H. He was wonderful in the way he dealt with me and the situation.

In February 2004, I found MB. I came on here crowing that we were recovered and telling everyone how we'd done it.

It didn't take long for people to point out that we were a long, long, long way from even being close.

JL talked me through it, BSs gave me great whacking 2x4s, a great many FWWs gave me hope and support.

By 1 year past D-day (October 2004) we were making real progress.

Now we're 2 and a half years past d-day. I wouldn't say we were perfect - we both have bad moments - but damn it we're going to be together and happy the rest of our lives.

BTW I'm 51 and was 48 when I had the A with my old H/S boyfriend. My H and I have been married 31 years.

Oh, and just thinking of my support group, Lisa103, if you ever, ever read you don't know how often I think of you and wonder how you're doing.

Bumping for Magpie.

And adding a bit more.

The man I was so keen to leave my H for. I never even give him a second thought.

Shoot, everyone's read it. Somebody say SOMETHING.

It doesn't have to be Magpie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Settle down Jen! God Bless.

Hi Jen, I was always curious, but never asked. Just because I have no secrets doesn't mean nobody else can. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Good for you!

we just love ya!!!!

Impatient children what are we going to do? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi! Jen.

I think Magpie will come along in the bye and bye. I hope so.

Good to see you posting again.

God Bless,

JL

Jen, I am so happy to see you open yourself up to help MP. I do hope she drops by soon.

kiwi..
this site is blessed with your support, insite and message of great hope...

ark

My story as a WS is almost identical to yours. At one time I would have walked out the door for the OM.

Amazing to be here now, isn't it!

Thanks for sharing!

Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Hi kiwij -

First, thank you for sharing more of your story with my wife. I have sent her the link to this thread, along with the FWW thread that Dorry started.

As I mentioned in my thread, we have been very busy this week. MP just started a new job, and is in training for it all week from 8 to 5. It's about a 45-60 minute commute each way, depening on traffic and weather, and our evenings are pretty full with family activities, and then we're in bed by 10 (or at least try to be). Add to that our son was sick Monday, and our daughter is now sick (yesterday and today). I am blessed that I am able to work from home for my job.

I imagine that my wife will post here, but it may be a few days. Thanks again for taking the time to share more of your story. I truly appreciate it.

BB, glad to help.

Neak, the whole story is on the board in all it's sick glory. It's all over the place though and there are so many new people, they don't all know me so I thought maybe time to tell it again. It's funny when you've been round so long people aren't aware of the background.

Thanks you other guys, too, for the vote of confidence. Ark, if I'd known you'd be around I'd have written "bumpster" not "bumping". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Susan, as you know, one little sentence written by you way back then kept me persevering. FF, love ya always. You too JL. In an "appropriate" way of course. Oh dear, remember that? What a fiasco.

And, BB, please call me Jen, everyone else does.

By the time you bury your story under a couple thousand threads, it might as well be a secret. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Wow, you've been here almost two years, and it's almost your MB anniversary.

This morning I set up a hotmail account for my wife and I (birdcouple@hotmail.com). The intent is to provide a means for any poster on this forum to contact us directly if they desire. There is of course no obligation to do so <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If you e-mail this account, please be aware that this is a joint account, and we will both see any e-mails sent there. I do not, at this point, intend to post either of our personal e-mail addresses on the forums, though you all are free to ask for them through this hotmail account.

I do realize that there is great concern (justified) about "private" conversations, especially between members of the opposite sex. That is not what this account is for - rather, it's a way to make contact with both of us, and if someone out there wants to follow-up one-on-one, that is fine, though my preference would be that any one-on-one be same sex. Thanks.

Can some of the FWWs email me? I have some personal questions I'd like to ask. And is anyone on the west coast? I have to leave for work around 11:30am (if I make it out of here on time!) and won't be home till around midnight, then back at work by 8:45 in the morning tomorrow, so, I know it's not orthodox, but if any FWWs have time for a phone call (on my dime) I'd appreciate it. I don't have much time for reading and replying to email except in random spurts.

i guess contact info would be good, huh? my personal email is a.sargent@comcast.net ... and I guess we can go from there.

I just sent you an email, I'm just like Kiwi, accept I don't have that phony accent. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

got it

thx

Hey Jen!!!

Dorry says that it would be really good for me to talk to you. Would you mind emailing me? Today is my day off, back to my grueling grind tomorrow-Monday.