(Put this on a new thread to be sure you saw it - the other thread was getting so long.)

CLO -
I know I am often on the opposite side of the fence with you on things but I did want to chime in on this accusation that you are lying to your child. I think that is too much - I mean in my sitch our COM don't know about OC at this point and I don't feel like I am lying to them. There is an appropriate time and way to explain grown up issues to kids and a parent has to use his/her discretion as to when that is right for their family.

I think it is great that your H is OC dad. The person that is there day in and day out is the real daddy - not someone who has the same dna. I truly hope the OW in our sitch settles down, finds a man of her own (she has a running record of MM)and our OC gets a dad like he truly deserves.

(And for the record on a topic from another thread - our OC is going to get same inheritance as COM from H. I have even agreed that if something unforeseen happens to H, I would see to it that OC is treated equally. That was what we felt was the right thing for us.)

The thing I have learned most from this board is that you have to do what works for you and your family - and I am glad things have worked out so well for you and yours, CLO.