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Wrestling with inferiority complex #1578252 01/31/06 01:59 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 589 L LLG Member
LLG Member L Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 589	I'm trying to move on in my life despite the big mess that is going on with Ws and me. I feel so inferior and many times find myself wondering over and over again about this while WS goes on his merry way and OW is obviously fine also. Is there a way to redeem yourself after dealing with infidelity so that one does not feel like a complete "loser"? LLG=Living, Learning, Growing formerly reallyconcerned Trying to stop fearing and start living BS-35 WS-33 kids, yes 1 D-day 8/2003, 2nd D-day 1/2006 Current status: Working in Plan A.

Re: Wrestling with inferiority complex LLG #1578253 01/31/06 02:18 PM
Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 957 E Eagle15 Member
Eagle15 Member E Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 957	PLAN A "Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"

Re: Wrestling with inferiority complex LLG #1578254 01/31/06 02:47 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan M MrsWondering Member
MrsWondering Member M Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 6,316 Michigan	really concerned... As Eagle has suggested, Plan A is a great way to take back control of your life. As a FWS, I want to tell you that the actions and/or words of your WS are not about you and you should not view them as such. His actions speak volumes about him, not you...none of his affair is your fault or due to anything about you...that is his alone to own, please believe that... I would really encourage you to post your story here. We can help you get through this, but you have to be willing to allow us to do that...you are safe here. If you are worried about your WS seeing that you are here, just make sure to clear your history and temporary internet files when you leave... Best, Mrs. Wondering FWW ~ 47 ~ Me FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering DD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

Re: Wrestling with inferiority complex LLG #1578255 01/31/06 04:19 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 396 H Hopeful4future Member
Hopeful4future Member H Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 396	Quote Is there a way to redeem yourself after dealing with infidelity so that one does not feel like a complete "loser"? Many new comers here are hoping to find the Holy Grail, the wonder pill, or the simple answer to your question. The only answer that many can offer is that this is something that will take time. Wounds, especially deep ones, don't heal quickly. You have just that... a deep wound. Some people have found that doing things that normally made them happy seems to help. It won't be the cure, but it may help. Happiness tends to make people feel better about themselves Hopeful4future The character of a person is defined by their actions...not their intentions. Otherwise, the world would be full of Saints. BS: 40 (Me) xFWW: 50 Married: 9/97 PA: 3 months D-Day: 6/30/2005 (she revealed to me) Divorced: 10/2/2008 Happy that I've moved on

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