I was raped on 9/11/2002 while out walking to meet my husband at his job because he had been coming home late and I thought he was having an A this guy came up behind me and grabbed me and beat me up and kidnapped me and rapped me after he did this he told me the reason he did it was because my husband had been screwing his GF. So after that I got the police and I had them go to my house to find my husband but they could not find him nowhere. So after the hospital and all they took me back to the place it had happened and all then they took me home. My husband could not understand what the police told him and the only thing he could say to me was that you don't looked like you got raped. And later that day he went to work leaving me home alone and he did not return until 6 the next morning and he got off at 12am. Now after all this time the guy was caught and locked up having raped 4 other women and trial starts 2/20/2006 now my husband is hiding from me he won't really talk to me I think he is having another A with women he has met online and meets them at the store down the street from the house I cry all the time now because the dreams from the rape are back and he just acts like nothing is going on with me. I think he feels bad but doesn't know how to talk to me my question is how do you make a blind man see?

You poor thing. Let me ask you a question, if a friend came to you with the same story what would you tell her to do? Maybe you need to step away from the situation and look at it as an outsider looking in. Try to see what you don't like and what you can change. I hope this helps. Good luck.

BTW, you husband does not sound like a very nice person.

Hey thats a good one I will try to do that thank you

That piece of advice I gave you was the thing that lead me to take back my life and let him finally wallow alone in his. Now he wants back in because he sees that I don’t need him, too bad he can’t also see that I don’t want him either. Farm animals and machinery are ahead of him on my list. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Selfish people suck royally. It's not even being selfish as much as lacking total self awareness. He does not want to see himself as others do and see how is actions effect others. Personally I would rather go to bed alone and be cold then go bed with a man like that and be frozen out.

Good luck to you. I am sure there are much better things in your future. I used to visualize myself walking down a long beach and lying down in a hammock being served tropical drinks with umbrellas. After it was all over that is exactly what I did. Then I visualized myself getting lost in the beautiful back streets of Mykinos and you know what? I did that too. Know where the ex went? McDonalds. Life can be grand. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Yes it can be and I am looking forward to those great days that lie ahead. Thank you for the talks I will keep you updated on the case ok

Just remind yourself that you will be fine and he will always be a lying cheat. Dignity and respect for another peron is like virginity, once they're gone they aint coming back.

i HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU ON THAT ONE HE WILL PAY FOR IT ALL IN THE LONG RUN AND I WILL BE MOVING ON WITH MY LIFE MY TRIAL CAME OUT GOOD THE GUY TOOK THE PLEA AND IS NOW SERVING LIFE IN JAIL. SO THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU HAVE DONE TO HELP AND YOUR PRAYERS