Hi C42, thanks for replying.

He just will not admit to it so I don't see any point in bringing it up. I am getting quite good at sensing what is going on with it by his actions, he is very transparent now that I have a little window into the inside.

On the one hand, I do believe that right now it is over. For the time being, forever.. this I do not know, maybe he doesn't either... maybe that is why OW contacted me finally after all these years, do not know.

I do know that the thought of him continuing a LTA for many more years sickens me to death. But... at this point I have to trust my gut instincts about this. Affair proof my marriage the best that I can.

When he was home this week we discussed his drinking and he did cut back quite a bit. I could tell he was really trying to be a better husband all the way around and not forcing himself. I seriously do not know what else I can do right now. I do feel comfortable with how we are interacting.

Through all of this and from reading here, I have grown so much it is almost unbelievable. Really. Granted, I have a long ways to go, but I have learned alot about myself, marriages, affairs, etc.

Looking back over the last few years, my ch and I have come so far, perhaps we have turned the corner. I do not know.

I am tempted to tell CH that OW wrote to me and was quite sharp with me... but think I will just let it go for now. It only makes things worse when I bring her up.... same ole, same ole.

Thank you so very much for responding..... Like I said.... in many ways it is much better here in my life, in many ways the same...

best regards - car

The OW is trying to goad you.

If you must, call the OW's school where she is a teacher and let them know that one of their 'teachers' has been known to harassing people and possible lewd acts. Ask them, 'is she stressed at work?' They may need to be concerned for their students and their school's reputation.

You don't need to respond to the OW. That one will turn her world upside down and then step back to see the 'lb from afar'.

L.

How are you doing today?

Carnation-

Hi there hon!! I am sorry that I haven't got back around to posting to you, you know how these posts sorta get lost in the shuffle <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You sound good, and the stuff with your husband sounds promising.

I would have sent the e-mail hopeandpray suggested....it may not have been the right thing to do....but I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from firing a warning shot across her bow!!!

It's funny that he won't admit to there ever being an affair, and you've got the dang OW sending you e-mail....have you not brought this up to him?? I'm just wondering how he explains that one.

Carnation, I wanted to make another comment about how strong you seem. I'm really proud of you!! I remember back when you first started posting, and you were so scared and confused....you are leaps and bounds stronger than you were then.

I don't know what you mean about being "Caren-Strong"...you're Carnation-Strong and it looks great on ya'!
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God Bless,

-Caren

I did it, I sent the letter hopeandpray suggested. It was just too good an opportunity to pass up. I think it covered everything I wanted to say to her.... I feel much better having done it !!



Sent it replying to her e mail through classmates.

Word for word !!!

If you are reading this hopeandpray --- I thank you so much for writing this for me. It is just as I wanted to come across... many thanks from me to you !!!


Thanks again sooooo much hopeandpray !!!!

Carnation

Car,

Things sound to be on the upward trend right now. I hope and pray it stays that way for you.

I am sorry I didn't get in touch yesterday, but after working I wet pout last night to the casino. Didn't win anything but had fun.

Let me know when its a good time to contact ya. Take care and know I am praying for ya....


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