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I finally got the nerve to file divorce, papers have been ready for WH to sign since last week and he hasnt! I am going to ask him to leave so then we have to explain to our kids why he's leaving and why were getting a divorce. Do I just explain daddy found someone else? I am currently pregnant by WH and due any day (due to dialation and contractions) so this may confuse the kids. Regardless I need to tell them the reason why he is leaving. I dont want to protect him from his actions. PLEASE HELP ANYONE? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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where are you located? Can we have a little more background info
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There are many books on this subject. The kids remember whatever you say at this point.
The books suggest you tell the kids together, and don't assign blame. (each party sees the split differently. Over time the kids will work it out for themselves).
In your current state, that may be difficult, and your emotions are likely running high.
If you can, get to a bookstore or library to find the right words to tell your kids. Their age matters too in what and how you tell them.
Ask a trusted advisor to help if you need it.
Good luck.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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Ive posted my story in General ?'s. I think I will speak to my sons phyciatrist on the best possible way to explain to them.
thanks ,
located in Northern Cali
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There is no "good" way to explain divorce to kids, but lying (i.e. pretending the reason is anything other than because there is an OP) is absolutely the worst way.
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For book resources, talk to the librarian at your local public library or at your child's school.
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