First off, having privacy is not hiding or sneaking. There are no locks on my office door and my computer doesn't have a password. My email password is "checked" to be remembered so I don't have to log in. Anyone can get on it anytime, but they don't.

Secrecy is different from privacy to me. Secrecy is hiding and is wrong. Privacy is just having your own little niche to have some quiet time or to pursue your hobbies. Of course, anything shady like infidelity would not fall under a respectful privacy umbrella. Privacy in a healthy family is not to be abused for immoral purposes.

Secondly, Ooops. No, I didn't realize I had strayed into the infidelity forum. I thought I was just in a general topics forum. My apologies.

Thirdly, I did read the initial post and all subsequent posts to this thread. There was not a link that I could find to her previous posts so unless there's a link that I'm missing, I think I answered based on the information given. That's the trouble with starting a new thread.

Canhurt, in this case, there is infidelity involved; her previous posts would have told you that, especially on the Infidelity Forum. Her H is hiding things from her and is untrustworthy, which is why she needs his passwords. In order to access previous posts, you simply click on the user's name and then select "show all posts by this user." That will take you to previous posts.