can your relinquish your rights after paying child support. Or lower payments significantly. Can you sue the other womand for intentionally wreaking your family. Ow knew h was married and i believe she got pregnant on purpose so that she can have him to herseld. That didn't happen i'm sticking by him but want my life back the way it was before she came into the picture. Why does she have rights and I don't.

Lowering CS is a joke, we are still fighting that battle but I still havnt seen the light at the end of the tunnel yet.

What state do you live in? States have different laws on TPR, what it will boil down to is if you happen to get a judge that will allow it, and there will be no chance if the OW says no. Same with sueing for aliation of affection, most state has banned that law, but still do have it.

I would love be able to sue the OW, As his wife, that money I counted on support us and the kids. To me I think it would be fair to take the amount I am now losing every month for CS and times that by 12 and then times that by until MY youngest is 19. She will still come out ahead cause she will still be able to collect for another 10 years but at least it would be showing best interest of my children.

yes it would be a very sweet revenge and a personal victory to me but it also would let me keep my kids to the standard of living that they are use too (isnt that what CS is about)instead of putting them in the poor house.

We live in CO ow lives in NC. I'm not to sure where to look to get info. Our lawyer wasn't much help. I looked at the statutes and it says you can relinquish rights if there is abandonment or extreme parental disinterest, failure to maintain contact, or failure to provide support. We have to pay the child support b/c it's court ordered and they take it out of h paycheck every week. NC grounds for tpr is if the child is born out of wedlock than prior to the filing he would have to fail to get a p test. I made him take the test b/c I was hopeing it wasn't his. Legitimate the child,marry the mother, or provide substancial financial support or consistant care for mother and child. Our lawyer told us that we would be paying back human services first before ow would be getting cs so when the back support is paid off then we can relinquish his rights. But then the child enforecent woman told us that she is getting the child support now.

We can't afford a lawyer. Ow lawyer made it look like we were making more money than we were. We were just barely making it w/out pay cs. I wasn't working b/c we agreed that I would stay home w/kids until they are in school. After they started taking cs out we had to get on food stamps which I never wanted to be on. So I got a job to help my family out. The ow won't even do that for her kid.

Ow won't come out ahead in this case b/c my youngest is a month younger than her child.

Man I understand how you feel, we are in the same situtation as you. To see how similar we sound find my orginal post Think this might be my life saver..... about a month ago.

As long as she is on state help they will not let you terminate rights even if both parents agree. And the back payments are paid off.

Best way to find out if she is still getting help from the state is...... you did get forced into putting the child of a medical insurance right????? With that since your hubby is the one covering the policy he can find out if the child has started being covered, if so then the medical assisstant would of been dropped. And if that is dropped then most likely so is the monthly check which she would be getting CSP after being dropped. To find out about food stamps I dont know.

I wouldnt worry about a attorney until she is off state and back payments are paid in full. Plus you will have to find out the wishes of the mother. Safe bet of it happening is if she remarries and step father adopts. Some states will only allow it that way..... but some will allow it if mother agrees, but she has to prove to the judge that she can finicially and emtionally raise this child and give it all that she needs on her own. A guy I have been corresponding with just TPR and a advice that he gave me is when you both go in and ask to make sure that the judge knows that you both want it for best interest of the child. Make the case about the child and not about the parents or about the CSP.

good luck---our luck is that the more you make the more they take. The courts do not take into account any other kids in the relationship and by our experience view the OC as the sole child--which it is in THAT specific relationship. It is hard and somewhat down right disheartening to start calculating all the money owed especially for the number of years involved.
All the best and good luck