I'm going to meet M's family on Sunday. A mother's day/1st Communion brunch.

I'm thinking of getting the boy making his 1st Communion a card with a Borders Gift Certificate. I don't think M was going to get something, but I would like to. Is this a problem?

I'm thinking chocolates for the hostess, his sister. Any opinions? And nothing for his mother, because that would be presumptuous on my part.

Why not a card for his mother thanking her for raising such a wonderful son?

Let me think about it. I've only met his mom once, so I don't know if she'd take that as me staking a claim to her son, or if she'd take it simply at face value, or worst of all, if she thought it implied the M word.

Of course, I could be resisting simply because I don't want to share my feelings.

I'm glad I'm a guy, being a lady is way too complicated.

You know, I wouldn't put that much thought into getting a father's day card from a guy dating my daughter.

It must be tough having to think of every possible meaning another person my mistake your card to mean.

Just another reason I'm glad I'm a guy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

(This message should be taken as humor only. There is no attempt to claim superiority, nor should one be implied. If you think this message hints at, implies or otherwise represents a judgment, you are probably wrong, LOL. If you do think this way, I respectfully ask that you "lighten up" and laugh at yourself for a moment.

I'd not do the card for the mom, that's just me though, I've always just done my mom, ex did his mom, etc. Hopefully he remembers her!!

The Border's card is a great idea.

Chocolates are always good - just thinking out loud - flowers? A flowering plant she can later transplant in the yard? Somthing simple yet useful.

[color:"blue"] GG [/color] - I think your original ideas were great. At first I was thinking why not have M go in with you for the Border's gift card, but then realized that might be misread also. Are you sure M isn't getting a gift? If so, it would be nice to have that as a guide. But that's purely subjective.

I wouldn't be surprised if flowers will be given by others in the family. Your ideas were thougtful, so stick with them.

[color:"blue"] EE [/color] - I realized your post was in jest - no disclaimer necessary - so we must be getting better at reading each other!

Hey GG, hope all is well. Appears to be headed down the right road if you're visiting with the relatives.

I like your two original ideas. Nothing for the mother. I agree this would seem presumptuous. A card for the boy's event & one for the hostess for having you. Simple & thoughtful. Very nice.

Enjoy! Well, as much as you can at these events. They've always felt a tad stifling to me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I wouldn't 'skip' his mother (for 'olderly' people are more sensitive for attention and showing - respect and thoughtfullness...), would rather skip his sisters... better to say, wouldn't skip anyone (sisters are mothers, I guess?)... I'd bring chocolates for sisters (good idea) and - flowers for The Mom.


And you don't know, also, if she already 'sees' you staking a claim to her son, or implying the word M simply by being/staying with him...

Personally, (and I hope I'll be alive to see my son bringing his date to meet me... Btw, if his date were the mother, I would prepare a gift for her for her day TOO), I would think it's disrespectful (and not well manerred) to skip HIS MOM...
(God help my future daughter-in-law, eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />)

Skip M's mom? Of course not. I wished her a happy mother's day but did not give her a card or gift. I didn't give the hostess a hostess gift either in the end. Instead, I opted for the gift card and a card for the nephew. I think it went over well, although M was worried the older children would be upset because he hadn't given them anything for their 1st communion. LOL.

I think I made an okay impression. I was definitely under the microscope! His sisters are beautiful and charming. His brothers are fun. The younger generation is well behaved. All in all it was great. Except when he announced to everyone he was taking me to Paris in the fall. I know I turned bright red!

EE, I wish I didn't have to think and rethink how people will interpret or misinterpret my every word and action. I'm doubly cursed by being a female with a father who does lots of misinterpreting.

So GG, how does he introduce you to his family?

"This is GG"

But his sister, his brother and someone else, introduced me to other people as "M's Girlfriend."

His oldest brother told me "M's finally headed in the right direction." LOL.

So Exciting!!

K!

GG,
How fun to read this thread! It is "so exciting"! I'm happy for you and M. Paris...ah the romance. We are planning to be in France in Sept. Making a side trip to Rome by train. If you are going around that time, let me know what you are planning to pack please! I'm fretting about what to take already...

I'm going in October. I'm taking walking shoes, and a pair of all-purpose heels. I'm thinking lots of pants, but I'll probably include a wrap around dress with a sweater. It's a great day-into-night thingy. I'll take one pair of jeans.

I've never been to Paris, or Rome. M has taken girls away before, but never to Europe. This is a big step for me.

GG,
The wrap around dress with a sweater sounds like a super idea. I'm so bad a getting shoes that are comfortable cause I can't stand the look of them. I'm a heal wearing girl and I absolutely hate flats. I am going to try and find a pair of more comfortable shoes though.

It is a big step to go away with M to Paris! No doubt you two will have a fabulous time!

The morning here is glorious as I sit writing out on the patio while enjoying the birds chirping all around and feeling the warmth of the sun. GG, I hope you too are enjoying your morning and this finds you smiling.

Okay GG, and does M have single brothers??

K!

One single brother, older.
And one single sister much younger. In case any men are checking in.

And does he take girls on trips too? [j/k]

I'm happy for you GG, truly I am.

K!

from what I hear, the older brother doesn't like to travel. Sorry. LOL.

Hey I'm older. Just how old is the brother? I like to travel, but no time lately. Is he tall enough for me? Is he GUD?

I just spent 26 hours in Las Vegas for a one hour presentation. I now have a great tan and am exhausted from the red eye flight home. Hope all is well with you.