It's thin strips of pork about an inch in thickness. Why they call it pork fingers I'm not sure! There's no bone to them, just clean meat!

I was wondering, I just finishe reading SAA and I let my cousin borrow HNHN, what book would you recommend to read next? I can't check the cell bill right now, but I do believe there's still NC. H and I are doing well! No angry outbursts from either, and I feel that we are close to recovery! We sit together, he plays with my hair, and I feel more attracted to him. I feel love for him, well starting! We've been dating and making time for each other, not talking about the relationship, even though I have so many questions! I don't think that he's going though much withdrawal, if any! Of course, what would I be seeing, if I did? And what's the signs off recovery? Could we be at the beginning of the road? Monday will be two weeks NC.

Next time, try cooking them in a little water with seasoning first, or bake in the oven with water, and covered with foil, then finish on the grill.

I hope you will not let him just sweep everything under the rug and pretend it never happened.

Some good books are "Torn Asunder" (religious, and great), "Not Just Friends", "Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders" (which is the next one I'm going to read), and "The Care and Feeding of a Husband" (not affair related, but excellent).

Thanks for the tip, i'm going to have to try that. I would have never thought of that myself. I'm always looking for new things so that the menu doesn't get old. Got anything for porkchop? LOL

No, and I've told him that I refuse to act like it didn't happen. Actually, I posed in it question form to him. He responsed with "No," and I said good because I refuse to act like it didn't happen. I'm trying to wait, not be pushy, and begin it up everyday. I'm trying to make good memories, get that LB up, before asking any questions or talking about relationship stuff.

I'm hoping to get into MC, let some of the anger subside first. He's the typical blame me, not apology needed, no a$$ kissing, like he said. We were just go far in withdrawal. It's all about his taker, right now! He's always one to get defensive. I know I've got to get that Taker to lower that wall before I can get his giver to come out. It's a matter, of waiting on the right time to ask a few questions here and there.

I was asking about PA behavior, and trying to read up on it, to figure out if that's what I'm dealing with. I really needed some examples. He's not willing to read anything right now and he says een when we have a good weekend together that I bring it up. So, I figured out we're not to that stage yet. Furthermore, I think his scare to tell me what happened because he found out that I went to a lawyer a few weeks ago. It was just to find out my rights and so forth. I'm thinking that he's thinking "well, she went to the lawyer with the little info that she has, I can't tell her what really happened, she'll definitely D me!"

I know his biggest fear is losing me and the kids! So, in order to find out what I need to know I have to prove to him that I'm sticking. Then, with time and love, I can get to where I need to get.

Please correct me if you feel that I'm not thinking correctly. It seems to me that in the last few weeks I have inadvertently LBed and I have to built his trust in me. He knows I'm not a push over, and I will start my life over IF I have too. He also told me that he thnks I set him up, in a moment of anger, that he saw how low I was willing to go. I'm not sure what all of that meant, if anything! At the time, he was going for low blows, it worries me, but I feel that I have to let something he's said, I think out of anger, to slide.

Like I said, I'm willing to hear anyones opinion on my plan of action. I'm almost certain the A is over but I'm still checking into that. I have to make sure that NC is in place. I can't go on without that. That's were alot of the angry outbursts have come from the last what six or seven weeks. Plan A has been pretty shaky, I had to learn alot, but I think I'm doing well now!

You say Plan A has been shaky, Needing. Don't let that be a concern. ALL Plan A's are a little shaky. None of them are perfect, particularly in the beginning. Human emotions are involved and they can never be completely suppressed. Don't expect it of yourself. If you falter, get control of yourself and get right back in the ballgame.

I wouldn’t worry about him knowing you saw the attorney, either. Let’s say it may well be providing a little incentive for him to get his act together. It might, repeat, might be causing some reticence to describe some of his behavior during the adultery but it’s not his primary motivation in that area.

Needing, the reluctance to reveal details is a routine part of the recovery process. For talking purposes, ALL wayward spouses try to keep some parts of what they’ve done secret. At this point in the process (considering all the good things your husband IS doing), the wall he wants to keep up between you and the “secret activity” has more to do with protecting you from something he doesn’t think you can handle than anything else. It’s something that will probably have to come out in counseling when he feels comfortable in that forum. Again, it’s entirely normal that he would be doing this.



Most of that sounds like just some striking out at you in a moment when he felt threatened in some manner. It almost sounds like a typical resentful reaction to exposure…but the “set him up” part doesn’t fit. I think you’re correct in letting it go and not concerning yourself about it. Some day, a few months down the line, you may find out what he meant, assuming he even remembers making the statement. Words said in anger are often not available for recollection even the next day simply because there was no thought process that went into them.

I think your best bet is to get him to go to couples counseling with you. If he will go two or three times, I think he’ll see it as a forum where he is free to let down his barriers without retribution. Once he sees this, he will begin to communicate freely and much progress can be made.

That means you have to be very careful to interview as many counselors as you need to in order to find one who is very well experienced in helping couples deal with marital infidelity and who is very pro-marriage. Shop for a counselor like you would for a special new dress and don’t apologize for discarding one in favor of another.

Thanks LH- Without your great advice and some other posts, I wouldn't have a Plan A at all. I was so angry, and hurt that I was LBing without me even knowing it. I've got a really good handle on the situation. Info on the highs and lows, stuff like that! Tomorrrow will be 2 weeks NC! HUrray!

FWH and I talked a little last night, he brought it up. Said that the A was mostly his fault (I think verses OW). FWH said that he thought him and I were one way and come to find out we weren't. I didn't want to dig, so I just let him talk. It was just great that he was talking in the first place without me bring up the subject.

I called him at 5:30am, on his way to work, and asked if he was going to bring me some coffee. He was running late, so no coffee, but come to find out when we spoke last night, he liked to have had a heart attack when the phone rang that early in the morning. He was thinking it was OW, and great, I would find out she called and start complaining! He said he was so reliefed to see it was me. I mentioned that we could do a NC letter or call, I said that I had some really good examples but I don't think his for that yet! I still need a committment to NC from him, which I'm working on. I know I can't push him, if I do he'll rebel, it's in his nature. Fogs lifting slowly, I can see it in his face and eyes when he talks. He's much more affectionate, and if he wasn't so tired from working all the time in 95 degree heat all day, he would be a world better. There were alot of things that he said last night that I'm starting to see the remorse. He said things that I would never hear come from his mouth, not even when things were at there best between us. Of course, that made me think about a few things that I would like to talk to himabout, it's just a matter of timing. He mentioned that not out of disrespect for me but the last thing he wanted was to come home from a stressful enviroment at work to a stessful home environment. I said I understood, he was already stressed at work and the last thing he wanted to do was get into a conversation that could potential cause him more stress. He said I nailed it on the head! To me that was a big breakthrough, I think we are starting to understand each other better.

We got up early this morning to go on a poker run, a friend of our needs a kidney transplant. This will be his second, so we spend all day on the bike. The auction went great, along with the rally, and we had almost 300 bikes. I'm sure we raised close to $10,000 for him! A lot of the cash prizes were donated back to the cause,needless to say we were both tired after the day! Hubbie's been asleep since 6pm and if I don't wake he up he'll sleep at night, which I think is wonderful! He's been so exhausted! Before he went to sleep, he was rattling on and on about how great of a day he had! I was so proud to be able to give that opportunity to him.

I know he still thinks about OW! I expect it at this point, I mean he's still in withdrawal. He said last night that the whole A started out as a getaway from the family. He didn't have a place to just relax after getting off of work, because as soon as he got here either me, the kids, or the neighbor, was asking him something, or to do something. At one point, I had to tell the neighnor's H that while he was offshore, his W was calling almost everyday, three, four, five times, needing help with something. They have five kids, and she's got some health problems, so we were helping her out as much as we could, but it was getting to be a burden. So, after talking to her H, things have gotten better. Hubbie was going over there to get away from it all. H was able to watch TV, drink a beer after work, and get some time for himself. ******, I was even hiding from the neighbor for awhile! So, at least I know that much. H's coming around! If I bide my time, I'm sure to get what I need. I'm amazed at the progress thru for, maybe b/c the PA ended in Dec., and I called her in Jan. H was really mad, that I called, because OW started talking to him less.

H felt "set up" b/c I invited her to his Bday party and that night, b/c of some things that happened there, he ended up telling me about the A. Of course, I had to ask him if he was cheating on me! I did invite her because I was uncomfortable with them talking. I can't believe she showed up, knowing now what I know. I think she may have gotten jealous, and she wanted to take his BF home. I think she was trying to make H mad, and it worked! Because of what happened at the party, the next day all of our friends knew what he had done, is was horrible expose for him! Believe me, I don't feel bad about the way things happened, "set up", no, he "set himself up." What was so bad was I invited his BFs from out of town? Having to face them was the worst! MIL was no help! She just said the two of us would have to work it out! Our friends were the best, they were sooooo disappointed in him! Crushed, and they really got on him!

well, that's enough for now! basically, I like the point we are at. SF was a world of difference, I even cried but it was in a good way! We're making great progress, no matter how slow it may seem! I also told him during SF b/c of the situation that I was not a quitter, I don't give up easily, and that I've always been a fighter! H laughed and agreed! He said he would of given up a log time ago. I was talking about not only the situation but about my M. I hope he got the point!

Good for you, lady. Stay with what you know is right. If he didn't get it, he will.

Thanks! I really appreicate all of the support. It's great to know that I'm headed in the right direction. I'm dissappointed that we're not in MC, but I guess that comes with time also!

I would love to hear what anyone else has to say. without Mber's support, I would definitely have lost my mind! I owe a world to this website and Dr. Harley's books!

I wish the world to everyone here, may God bless you all in everything that you do! I will continue to pray for all of you! have a great day!

You need to cook pork for a very long time on low temperature.

You can as advised here boil the pork before putting it on the BBQ.

If you do boil it then you must add a lot of flavor to the water. If you are using BBQ sauce what I do is I add BBQ sauce to the water. I would boil for at least a half an hour.

Or what you can do and this is cheating but what the heck. Throw them in the oven at 250 for about an hour and a half to two hours.

On pork I like to dry rub with brown sugar and seasonings it helps the BBQ sauce adhere to the pork when you are done.

As for the coals go out and get a chiminey, I think they are called. You put the coals in it then paper at the bottom light then walk away. They will be ready in about 15 minutes then you just dump them in.

As far as the other stuff going on it is hard to talk about anything when you are trying to chew undercooked pork.(LOL)

Sounds like you are doing good. Do what you know is right then you will be able to look yourself in the mirror.

Thanks! I am thankful for all of your feedback!

Hurting- If I keep talking to you, I'll be a better cook in no time! Right now, I hate to cook. I mean I like it but it seems like I've exhausted my resources! H likes meat, I don't really, OS loves vegetable, not a big meat fan like me, and the little one doesn't want anything do to with anything expect cheese pizza, chicken nuggets, grilled cheese and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I've even tried to have him cook with me, but no dice! When I talked to my mom the other day, she said I was just like that! That was a shock to me! I just thought that was so funny!

Anyway, here's a question to think about! I was sitting here thinking about something Hubbie said to me the other night while just talking. He said that a lot of times I will say things to him regarding SF for later that night and do not follow though. he was very sincere when he said this and I have thought long and hard about how and why I would do such a thing. For the life of me, I can't figure this out! I've thought maybe I'm trying to get his attention or maybe hope that he will start SF. I'm not sure what it is, but I would like to change that! Sometimes I'm picking on him, I think, trying to create good feelings between the two of us? Not I understand that this is a source of disappointment to him, so any ideas into why I may be doing this and not following through would be appreicated. I can think back and remember doing this for years! I guess I've always thought that I was sitting the scene for later but appartently not!

"He said that a lot of times I will say things to him regarding SF for later that night and do not follow though"

Let him know you are not the only woman on the Planet that does this. My FWW does the same exact thing to me or she used too.

I think you guys(women) like the attention it brings, but it drives men crazy.

It's like telling your kid they get an icecream cone after dinner then not giving it to them.

Heck I might have done some extra chores just to make sure you were not too tired. LOL.

Then you roll over and go to sleep and no darn ice cream cone. Now I am going to throw a fit.(lol)

So here is what I did. But then again I am getting ready to quit this whole mess so take it with a grain of salt.
Do not do that anymore. You can be affectionate etc but never ever say that later on there will be...

It is really that simple. I know it sounds stupid but my FWW is not allowed to say she wants... until it is time.

Women are wierd they might want .... at two in the afternoon but by 9 they might want to go to sleep.

Men are wierd too we might want... at two and at three four five six seven etc.

On the cooking note my kids are the same with eating. We usually just make two meals.

I love to cook. Before I met my FWW my roomate used to tell me I was going to make someone a good wife. LOL

Well, I'm glad that I'm not the only one that does it, and I see your point! The only way to solve the problem is to avoid doing it. It's not that I want to disappoint him, just something may come up, like being tired, or he's said something to screw it up! you're right and I thank you for calling that to my attention! Of course, I guess if I don't catch myself, I just have to remember to follow though!

I really use to like to cook. I would hunt down new recipes, but since the kids came along, I just get frustrated! I guess I could just not fight them, as long as they're eating healthy, and let them eat what they want! I admire you for enjoying cooking, noth of H's BFs like to cook also. Matter of fact, as a hobby, one BF caters on the side! Tonight, I'm trying a new recipe, tacos in a paste shell! I know it's tacos, but it's different!

I love the comment about making a good wife. I would have had to laugh at you too!

I had the worst nightmare last night! H was going behind my back and seeing OW. I confronted H and OW. It went to blows with the two of them. He didn't want to be with me at all. He was so wrapped up in OW. H would act like he loved me so much, would drop me off or visit with me at work, and go straight to her house! I followed him to her apt. and it was in the worst section of town. I woke up so unnerved!

Before H and I went to sleep last night, he pulled me close to him and said that I have always been his "Angel" and that he wasn't going anywhere! So, where the HE)) did this nightmare come from? H called me this morning to make sure that I was up because we had a bad thunderstorm last night. He said he was messing with me in the morning anymore, said I slapped him in my sleep. I said I was sorry, I was having a nightmare, and I didn't mean to do it. I didn't give him any details, but I'm in a weird mood today! Things have been going so great for us! He's opening up more, in a better mood all the time, affectionate with me, and just all around great!

Any ideas what this is? My worst fears coming to light? Suppression of all the pain and hurt? PTSD? It's been over a month since D-day, I'm still not sleeping though the night, waking up at least twice a night! That nightmare has me so worked up today, I have got to get over it!

It is exactly what you said it is. You are thinking of something and it your mind keeps working on it when you go to sleep.

Just like seeing a scary movie. I never had nightmares about sharks until after I saw Jaws. Then I would go to sleep and the darn shark would be in the bathtub with me.

If you are going to try something new with Tacos you should try having the kids help. Taco's are fun to make for kids. All the shreading etc. My kids dig it when we let them help cook.

My FWW is not allowed to let them help because I fear for their lives in the kitchen. LOL.

NC -

I wouldn't worry too much about the nightmare. It's part and parcel of your situation. I would, however, strongly encourage you to share the nightmare with your husband.

I've had a few nightmares myself, though it was more the variety of I wound up working with OM on projects at work (we're in the same field, but different companies and nowhere near each other geographically). I've told my wife about them...they are unsettling.

I think, part of getting past the fear of losing our spouse, is being willing to take the risk of opening ourselves up to them again. Intimacy = risk. It also equals great reward. The best things in life are not easy - and often times there's a risk involved.

The key is to make the risks as calculated as possible. In the case of a relationship, that calculation is how much hurt am I willing to possibly take, and how likely am I to get hurt?

Let your H know about the nightmare. If he comforts you, accept it. Don't torture yourself with possible hidden meanings or alterior motives. If they are there (and I am not saying they are), they will reveal themselves. (I don't intend for you to tell yourself they're not there - just don't dwell on the chance that they might be.)

Hurting- I figured my mind was still reeling from the conversation that we had earlier that night! It's like everytime I hear something from him, I can't respond then, I have to have the chance to process the info.

Now, I can't believe you wouldn't let your FWW and the kids in the kitchen together! That's too funny! And I'm sure that the kids would love to help with an activity like that! Besides maybe my boys will make someone a good W someday! LOL

Broken-Thanks for the reinforcement that I need to share this with H. I had thought about it this morning, but I didn't want to runi his day. If I get the opportunity tonight I'll talk to him about it.

On another note, My stepdad and mom called me fifteen minutes to lunch this morning. I've always said that they would need me before I need them. We talked for about 30 minutes. It was the best conversation that I have had with them. SD said he was sorry again for the things that he had done to me as a child, and that he still could not forgive himself. I said that I had forgiven him, mom had forgiven him, and God had apparently forgiven him, because he has been blessed with being reunioned with his son and daughter. It's time that he forgive himself. He said that he wasn't sure that he could do that, I said maybe you feel like you can forgive yourself until you do right by me. We talked for a long time and for the first time ever, they said that they are very proud of me. Something I've always needed and wanted to hear. SD also said that that he wished H and I continued success in our M. I didn't tell them what was going on, just that we are going though a rough spot, but things were getting better! I've had a hard enough time with them accepting him, I don't need any more trouble with it. I think that was best!

The amazing thing is that SD was crying on the phone. I held my composure, talked calmly, and spoke my mind. I explained that I wish we were closer, but the day he said that I was allowed in his home but not my kids or my H set the course for the years to come. I told Sd that I hoped he understood, but I couldn't step foot into his house because I felt that if I did without my family, then I would be abandoning them. I said that I knew that he would do something like that so I knew he could understand where I was coming from. SD agreed!

I hung up with this great inner peace! The little girl in me is HAPPY, and at peace. She has been acknowledged as a woman who my parents are proud of, for standing up for what I believe in, and for being a fighter.

Good for you!

And my kids are afraid of the kitchen. The dinner bell used to be the smoke alarm. When it went off it was time to get ready to go out to dinner.

My kids actually ask who cooked dinner tonight before we eat. Residual fear I guess.

I am glad to hear about your parents. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Just to read into it a little. You set a boundry with your SD and refused to negotiate it. He now understands your boundry is set in stone. No H or Kids no you. He has finally come around to respecting your wishes. Hmm maybe we can learn from that.

Good for you!!!! Family is important but you can't chose them so you make the best with what was given to you.

Hurting- I hope that you are better today. I read your thread this morning! I hope that you can use some of the things that silver and cfc suggested. I'm sorry to hear that things have been so difficult! I wish you and your kids the world.I hope that no matter what happens you will continue to post.

Smoke detector as the dinner bell...LOL... at least I've never been that bad! LOL

Thanks for reading into it... I never saw it as setting a boundry, but your right! I can say that I have had the support of my dad and SM. Matter of fact, my SM has been more of a mom that my own mother. I have a half S and B, two nieces, and a brand new nephew! We really don't talk much, but we keep up with each other. One of my neices has to have heart surgery to close up a hole, so as soon as my S can raise the money to come to my house, she going to set the surgery up. They have to go to New Orleans for it, and I live about an hour away. So, they will be staying with me to save money!

I wish I could help her out more but I can't! My dad was really great about H and I getting together!I remember the day so well, Dad asked me to go ride with him. He asked about me and Hubbie dating. I told him he had the choice, he could either be in my life or out. Dad chose to stick around and H and dad get along better tham dad and I do! LOL I think that Great! Matter of fact, Dad will say that H's his favorite SIL! LOL

Oh, I told H about my dream. He didn't say anything about it, changed the subject! I didn't expect anything different from him. Before he went to sleep, he did joke with me saying "let see if I get beat up tonight!" I said I'll do my best not too!

well, today's a new day! Hopefully I'll get my internet back at home. The thunderstorm that we had two nights ago killed our connection and the company doesn't know when it'll be back up! I missed checking the site last night!

Hope everyone has a good day!

I always say that things will work themselves out. Uusally in the best way for us even though we don't see it at the time.

Maybe my FWW's actions over the last three years have made me into who I am today and I hope it is a better person.

Just like with your family situation. Maybe SD being around your kids no matter what wasn't a good idea. Even if they are not interracial. I would not want my children exposed to a racist bigot. So maybe that was the plan from the beginning you just didn't know about it.

You have a wonderful set of parents on the other side that loves and accepts your family. Who would you rather spend time with? That may be why it was chosen for you. Your kids have spent more time with them because they have spent less time with the SD. How great is that for them.

As far as the dream at least he joked about it. Mine would have closed up and in some way shape or form told me I should be over it already.

Thank god I have a comfortable couch because I just hate sleeping next to her.

You remember what we talked about the other day that we weren't supposed to? She asked me last night if that would make me feel better if she did it. Like it is a game to her. Here little boy you want a cookie. I feel enough pity for you now to try to make you feel better. LOL

Yesterday we got an aniversary card from my grandmother. She asked if I wanted it and I said no. I refuse to celebrate that day considering her actions on that very day.

I wouldn't have gone for that either. I would have said something like "what do you think I need your pity?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I remember those days when I didn't want to sleep next to H. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> I hated him with every cell of my body! I'm sorry that FWW had made you feel that way again.

I've always said what does not kill us can only make us strong! I did get to spend a lot of time with my D and SM, because I was kicked to the curve by my M and SD. Growing up my SD determined whether or not I could go see my D, most often not! SD even tried to get me to change my last name to his for racial issues. I'm half American Indian, and white! Darker than the normal Child! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

My kids love their papaw, he's a really earthy guy! Live off the land, cuts his own lumber! Jack of all trades! I value him and his moral system, and I'm very proud to have him around my kids! If they were around my SD, I would worry alot more than being a bigot! The kids would never be left alone with SD for worry about him abusing them! Yeah, I think that everything works out for a reason.

I hope that we all find our reason for going thought this mess really soon! I'm surprised at how calm I've been dealing with H and then my parents! Ad's, I'm not sure? LOL Maybe I'm learning new coping techniques! I'm not sure but I use to feel insane having to deal with my M and SD. It was like the only time they called in the past was to cause trouble. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Oh, Guess what! 16 days NC! H doesn't seem to be in withdrawal! He's very affection compared to what he was! Like he'll just pull me to him and run his hands through my hair! He'll ask if I'm ok, or what I'm thinking about! If I said Nothing, he'll say don't give me that, then, if I'm thinking about the color of the wall, I have to tell him the color of the wall! He never stopped talking about the future, except right after D-day because I said I wasn't sure about a future! I would say things like if we make it thought this! When he wasn't angry which was alot of the time, it's almost like he was plan A'ing me, as long as we didn't talk about the relationship! He was always angry about me pushing for NC, which was once or twice a week when she called! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, with every single day of NC, I celebrate a new life, and relationship with H! At the same time, hoping and praying I'm not decieving myself! There's that Fear AGAIN! LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Longhorn-Where are you I miss you? You always have wonderful things to say! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Believer-How are you doing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I'd like to hear from everybody! What ya'll don't like talking to a [censored]$$ ?(cajun folks)? LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Well at this point I am going to dawn some blue tights and a red cape because the only thing left that can kill me is kryptonite. LOL.

I am glad things are working out well for you. Sometimes it is just a perspective thing. If you look for the good you will see it. If you look for the bad you will see it. Sometimes this will work against you though because sometimes you want to see good so bad that you ignore the bad.

FWW called a little while ago and said she is sorry for my pain. She is sorry for what has happened and then she said something about talking then corrected herself and said since everything is now out on the table we really have nothing to talk about.

I of course disagree. I think we need to talk about a lot especially the lack of trust I have for her.

She doesn't even realize how much it hurt me about my sons B Day. It hurts so much because when she came back from NY she hung a picture of her and my son up on the fridge from his party. When I found out about the A I asked her to take it down. She said it is not like I slept with him that night what kind of person do you think I am. Then she said I am not taking it down because I didn't do anything wrong that night. Wow what am I to think about that one. Should I not discuss her assertation she didn't do something wrong that night? I think she did something wrong that night and now I want to know how she left that picture up for 13 months.

This is just one of the many issues her dishonesty has caused. I guess I need to forgive and forget.

So back to you.
It is nice for your kids to have such a positive role model in their papa. And your kids probably would have been told about how they are not the chosen ones by the SD.

Good to hear about the NC. Sounds like you are much further along then me in a shorter period of time.

Good luck.