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#1673474 06/02/06 01:01 PM
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http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=0#Post3028996

I posted in EM forum and Divorcing / Divorced forum....

i need advice

Thanks

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What are your current living arrangements and who is moving out?

If she wants YOU to move out, you should decline.

If she wants a separation, she should be the one separating - not you.

What are the financial arrangements? Who drew up the document? Do you have an attorney helping you?

Are there children involved? What are the custody arrangements in her version of the separation document?

worthatry #1673476 06/02/06 02:12 PM
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Hi,
We are living in the house together becasue neither of us are able to afford it alone. It is on the market to be sold.

I will not move out, but every other weekend we go our separate ways.... She leaves goes out on fri, sleeps at moms comes home for the day and the same thing happens on sat night. Me the same thing... I do not go out because the bar scene is not for me. If i go out it is with the guysfor dinner and home by 11ish.. This everyother weekend is stopping.

Well she is separating, she has the papers to be signed, I changed them once now I decided to change something else. I will sign them this weekend. She said if I love her as much as i say then be a man of my word and sign the papers.

We have to maintain the house until it is sold.

She drew up the documents with her attorney.

Yes three children 2 girls 16/15 & 1 boy 8.

Joint custody, but they live with her primary..

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She said if I love her as much as i say then be a man of my word and sign the papers.

Baloney.

Don't you dare sign anything any time soon.

Get your own attorney to help you make sure you're not getting shafted.

DO NOT SIGN!!!!

OK?

WAT

worthatry #1673478 06/02/06 02:52 PM
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DO NOT SIGN! DO NOT SIGN!! DO NOT SIGN!!!

There is no hurry. Forget the nonsense about being a “man” if you sign. A MAN does not bend over and let his WW screw him over, which is exactly what you’d be doing if you sign. A MAN does the opposite. A real MAN stands up for his M, his CHILDREN, and himself.

Before I proceed on your thread, I need to know if you are willing to MAN UP and stand up for yourself, your CHILDREN, and your M, or if you are just willing to let your WW gets away with whatever she wants. I don’t want to waste my time or yours, so let me know.

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I do have a lawyer looking at them. pro bono.

I have changed them two times and had the papers for over a month.

I am a man of my word and she has been waiting patiently(sp).

the papers are fine with me and I am not getting shafted. How do I proceed from here on?

I do love my wife more now than ever and yes I have taken her for granted the last two years on and off. But you know the saying, You do not know what you have until its gone. Well she has been checked out since 2/5/06. We made love on 2/12 and she said it was a mistake and on 3/28 we made love and she asked me not to hold it against her, I never borught it up except the fact that I missed her and took the opportunity to hold her tight....

I miss it all, since then she is gone in her heart and mind. I have been getting stronger, and my love for her has gotten stronger too. Why has it not faded? Do i have unconditional love?

We went to a Retrovaille, weekend and on follow up it was the most amazing experience in my life. We fought the before one of the sessions and never went back. A huge mistake on my part. I have learned so much from loving her without conditions. I wish she could see it too...


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