Urban flight?

well if you want to nit pick...

I don't want to nit pick.

Have I mentioned a loathing of a certain OW? Initials are V and D........

Here's your answer.

Pio's answer

You know what is so strange? Before her A, she was truly the sweetest woman I had ever known. Something changed her. For the record, my WW is also a Latina. After years of seeing her Father and brothers cheat with impunity, and then juxtaposing that against her strict Catholic upbringing when she go to the US, I think it generated a sense of entitlement within her. Make sense?

Plan D.

The house was in her name. We did that because our esate lawyer recommended that we balance assets in our relative names to avoid as much death tax as possible. Her friends convinced her that the house was hers and hers only even though our state is a community property state. So, in March, I moved out. I moved in with my oldest son because I am not supposed to be living alone. Seizures and all that stuff.

So, she has since sold the house and moved in with her enabling best friend. But, not all's well in paradise. According to DS3, she hates living there.

A few months back, a tornado hit the house and did some renovations to the roof. The roof was deposited into the swimming pool and approximately ten neighbor's lawns. They were not amused. So, a couple of weeks ago, I received a NastyGram from her telling me that I moved out and left her alone to face the tornado and to sell the house by herself and move by herself. Well, a friend helped. Anyway, she told me that she finally realized what kind of man I was, that I abandoned her in her time of need.

I won't describe my reply.
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>that I abandoned her in her time of need.

That's effing rich.

I know how I would have replied.

Course, she would have needed a spelunker, map, and a flashlight to retrieve it from the orifice I kicked it into....

But still.

That link didn't exactly work for me. You haven't mentioned any loathing on this thread. Go ahead. Spice it up a bit or ToddAC will start talking about columbia clamps again. Initials are V and D. Hmmm. Venereal Disease comes to mind.

OW's IRL initials are VD...how telling is that?

I HATE her.

Loathe.

Detest.

Abhor.

I posted to my stalker (Dobie) out there in General earlier today. I think that post sheds some light on the experiences I've had with the Walking Disease these past 3 years.

Here's what I wrote to ya:

Of course, all that was written before the airport meltdown of 2006.

Lemme tell you my opinion for what it was worth...Gemla needed to hear all of what you said at the airport AT THAT MOMENT IN TIME in order for it to sink in.

And I think you needed to say it.

Thanks for the reprint. I just spent the last 30 minutes searching this thread and had just found it and was about to tell you when I saw your post. Kind of the way my life goes these days.

Here is where I am at. I think in order for me to stay in this marriage, I am going to have to fall in love with gemela again. I am going to give us time to see if it happens. I can always get divorced as bigger keeps reminding me. Those vikings sure are stubborn people.

>Here is where I am at. I think in order for me to stay in this marriage, I am going to have to fall in love with gemela again

And?

What's your plan for that?

What's her plan for that?

How do you plan to fall in love? I guess I need to see what EN's are missing. I haven't really thought much about it. Until a few days ago, I expected to be separated right now. Maybe I also need to ask myself what barriers exist to me falling in love with gemela again. The A is not one of them. I think I need to see some fundamental changes in her. I want to see her shift more of her attention from herself to our DDs, for example. She thinks SF is an important EN for me. It isn't but we have never discussed it either. Actually I don't enjoy SF with her at all any more but that is because I am emotionally disconnected at the moment.

No. I don't have any plan.

What’s this I’m hearing of engineers who are not civil engineers? Are they uncivilised engineers?

I’m not encouraging you to divorce. I’m just saying it’s either a committed marriage or a committed separation. No wallowing in self-pity middle ground for either of you. It’s so easy to get stuck there.

I’m fortunate in being happily married. I fall in and out of love with my wife. In love for various reasons (ranging from her grilled lobster to the love she shows our kids to how sexy she can look). Out of love most of the time just happens when I take her for granted… Love is a conscious decision in my opinion.

Yes being in love is work. No doubt. I just think gemela needs to start a Plan A of her own. She seems to be doing just that. It is so interesting to see how this has all gotten turned around. I think she is a bit confused as to what to do but I do think she is trying her best. She says she definitely wants the M and I actually believe she is sincere. I don't think she has any interest in the pool boy. I think she wants to hang on to the fantasy of the romance as a fond memory. That is a bad idea.

>Love is a conscious decision in my opinion.


YES!

I just can't get over the physics major thing. I mean what was ToddAC thinking? "Yeah I'm gonna major in physics - that will really help me pick up women!" Most engineers are not civilized. We are too pragmatic for that. If I am in a restaurant and have a soft drink with free refills, I have no problem getting up and getting it myself if the service is really slow. WW thinks that is rude. I think it is a simple solution to a problem.

What's this about clamps? Clamps? Why would I talk about clamps?

Genital clamps if I remember correctly.

Oh, I killed the thread with that.

Sorry, removed it.

Uh, back to the grilled lobster. We need details. More.

More details about genital clamps or what I just removed.