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piojitos #1687778 08/15/06 01:57 PM
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I mean what was ToddAC thinking? "Yeah I'm gonna major in physics - that will really help me pick up women...

Well, it worked on Barbara. I mean, she was three (or so) years older. I was very young. She was guilty of statutory rape but I refused to file charges. Anyway, she was impressed with my physics major. Then she preceded to corrupt me and do everything else she could to cause me to turn away from physics.

But as Mario Puzo wrote in "Fools Die": But the truth is that only women have been able to make me unhappy, and they have done so from the cradle on. But most men can say that. And there’s nothing to be done.

I was snakebit at an early age.

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No, the grilled lobster.

If it was(were?) genital clamps I talked about, I know for whom they were intended. If you hear primal screaming one day...

When did I talk about clamps BTW? Pio refuses to tell me.

ToddAC #1687780 08/15/06 04:28 PM
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Talk about being a thread killer.

Where is Pio? Enjoying his vacation or something?

ToddAC #1687781 08/15/06 06:38 PM
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Let's not forget that WW does not like me spending time on MB. I have to do it in small doses when I get an opportunity.

A while ago you gave me a complete description of each of the 367 clamps you own and their specific uses. You have a special fondness for Columbian clamps. Fettish might even be appropriate. And yes KiwiJ is right in that you had invented a new use for them with regard to OM.

piojitos #1687782 08/15/06 06:57 PM
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And yes KiwiJ is right in that you had invented a new use for them with regard to OM.

Yes that much is true. I have selected the three smallest clamps I have for that particular use. I have also devised a lever insert so the torque can really be turned up.

Primal screaming from the short little fat man.

ToddAC #1687783 08/15/06 07:16 PM
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Three clamps? That might explain the affair right there.

ToddAC #1687784 08/15/06 08:47 PM
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"What did you expect me to do, just sit around and wait for you to die? I was lonely". Did I mention that was her charm that I initially found so overwhelming attractive?

OMG Todd. What a cold hearted b1tch. And you Plan A'd this monster? I really cannot wrap my mind around her actions or words.

Just want you to know that we love and care about you here. Okay, so we're a group of strangers on the internet. Just don't tell your friends or they'll think your brain has really been fried.

I don't post to you often but I do look for your posts to make sure you're okay. I do care. And I do hope you find another woman some day that you can trust and be happy with. Otherwise the visions of you and Pio spoonin' {Those aren't pillows!} are just too much to handle.

Wishing you a speedy recovery!


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Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
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Shattered05 #1687785 08/16/06 12:27 AM
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Go ahead. Give him a cyberhug. That's what he really wants.

How is 2much doing?

piojitos #1687786 08/16/06 12:41 AM
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How old is Todd. He writes like a younger person.

Oops, had to edit again.

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KiwiJ #1687787 08/16/06 01:59 AM
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I can't remember. For some reason 57 is the first thing that popped into my mind. I email him all his posts. That might explain it.

piojitos #1687788 08/16/06 02:00 AM
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My H is 57.

KiwiJ #1687789 08/16/06 02:06 AM
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Yes but your H is also a poet. If I could write poetry like girlee man, I might be perfect. When I look up at the sky, I see gemela's and my stars shining together. Oops. It's raining. Maybe later.

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LOL, not a poet, the soul of a poet.

I see you did read what I wrote and deleted.

KiwiJ #1687791 08/16/06 02:19 AM
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How old is Todd. He writes like a younger person.

Hmm... I am not sure how to take this.

On the one hand, I could think: wow, I sound like a young person. On the other hand, I could think: OMG, I sound like a young person.

Is my writing that bad? That infantile? That lacking?

Hey, if I want to be put down, I can always call WW. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I am twelve BTW.

ToddAC #1687792 08/16/06 02:31 AM
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It was a compliment Todd.

KiwiJ #1687793 08/16/06 02:34 AM
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Twelve huh? I'd have thought a little older.

Not infantile, not immature, just not like a middle aged man. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But then my H doesn't sound like a middle aged man either. Maybe it's just baby boomers. We never grew up.

KiwiJ #1687794 08/16/06 02:49 AM
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At the other site, I exchanged PM's with a young guy who really needed to screw his head back on. Anyway, he asked how old I was, I said fifty seven. He said: Wow, I thought you were about twenty five. So, being naturally curious, I asked why. He said, well your advice and feedback is not profound like you would think an old man's advice would be.

Darn kids.

Anway, thanks for the compliment.

Now, if I could only write poetry like Rob.

Sigh...

ToddAC #1687795 08/16/06 06:39 AM
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Well I solved the rain problem not letting us see our stars shining together. I set up a satellite dish and have a radio wave receiver which feeds into my laptop where I have a wavelength shift conversion program to convert the reception back to the visible spectrum. Gemela is just going to faint when I show her our stars shining together. Is that poetic or what?

No I did not read the deleted post and feel somehow cheated.

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gemela and I had a talk last night. I asked her what she wanted out of the M. She said she wanted us to be together as a family. I said we are together as a family. What I want is a happy marriage or a happy divorce. I asked her what was so wrong in our mariage before that we needed to change. She said she was unhappy that I did not spend much time with them in Muscat. I replied that from my POV she had a lot to do with that by attaching herself to her mother during that time and shutting me out. I said I was not trying to place blame but that there is more than one side to the story. She said the A was a mistake. I said putting your shirt on inside out is a mistake. Her A was a sin and destroyed her family. (DJ? maybe).

I told her I was confused and not sure what I wanted. I said I am not sure I still want to be married to her. All I know is that I am not happy and I will never go back to the life we have been living. Things need to change very much for me to be interested in this M. So I asked again what she wanted. Nothing. I told her I wanted her to be more focused on the kids than on herself. I told her she did not need to buy clothes or shoes to be beautiful. She could put on anything and be beautiful. She said she was not. I told her she was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen and that I think this is all part of her problem.

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Hello,
Sounds like you all have some concerns...confused as to if they are more centered around writing skills or age? Writing style is not directly r/t age, however content definitely r/t age, life experience etc. Some youngsters have lived many lifetimes of woes in few years though so it's hard to tell. I must admit I prefer reading something that I don't have to work like a dog to translate or interpret. I like to understand what it is saying the first time...don't want to have to re-read 5 times to find all the hidden meanings, symbolism etc.

I am much more the direct shooter type...lots of the reason MB principles are difficult for me. I understand the alien theory but I tend to feel that if you have to bait people and set up the environment that you are in a sense creating a false environment that is difficult if not impossible to maintain. I just want to say...hey get your head out of your a$$, look at what pain you are causing, either you want this M or you don't...make a decision and move on. If you want it this is what you need to do x,y,z. If it doesn't happen you know they don't want it...

I am having some emotional spiraling lately. Cognitively I feel I should cut H out, have fun and move on with my priority the kids. H making it difficult since staying at the house but choosing to stay out every other night, not committing to any NC or anything else but refuses to say he doesn't love me and refuses to say he wants D. Gives me the "I don't know what I want". To me it's pretty simple. If you want your M, tell the 21 yr old that you've known for 4 months that it's over, cease contact, be transparent and get on with working on M...or throw away 11 yr M and 3 awesome kids to "find out if being together" is what you want. HHHHHMMMMMMMM complicated decisions.

Today DD1 B-day. H chose to go out and stay out all night but assured me he'd be home for Bday in pm. He asked me if he could go with xxx to xxx and be back the next afternoon (today)...I reminded him DD1 bday. Now, if you were trying to be a good dad (like he says is his goal) would you knowingly on your DD bday choose to not be with her every minute that you didn't have to work? No he chooses to be with friends and then apppear for DD in pm. I call and text last night but no answer for 2 hours. Wanted to remind him to call DD at Midnight for bday. He finally texts back and says he never got calls or text...asks what's up. I wait till after mn and he text again...I tell him he should call DD. In meantime she says how she can't believe H didn't remember to call for bday...10min later surprise he calls talks to her and hangs up. WTF, yeah the whole superdad thing is really working out for him. Especially considering that all of us could have been dead less than 2 wk ago. But of course the calls and TMs to OWs are still going strong despite any of that.

I really don't think counseling is worth anything at this point since I don't think he is willing to do what it takes...he is just buying time to cake eat I think. What amazes me is how I can basically hate and be disgusted but still feel like I love him. Is that normal? At my wits end here. I'd contact OW if I thought it would do any good but I know that my H is the problem given his hx.

Gotta go put on the coffee and wake DD1...just decorated with Bday signs (our family tradition). Hope she has a good one. She is 10 today! In 2 wks my DD2 turns 6 so we get to play all over again:)

About the feedback Todd..."profound" is in the eye of the beholder...surely the young man did need some mechanical adjustments...it's the simple stuff that is the hardest in life

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