Husband came home last night with flowers for me (has not happened in years).... Said he was sorry for all the things he has put me thru & that he understands why I did what I did, & he 100 % forgives me & there is no hard feelings what so ever, WEIRD>>> he wants to talk to other man & tell him thank you, & that there is no hard feeling whatso ever for them 2 either... We sat down & talked for 4 hours last night & ended up making love like we used to when we first started dating 9 years ago, it was amazing, I dont know if this is ok or what, I was the happiest I have been in years last night & so was he.. what does everyone think of this ??? Is this normal ??? or should I be ready for a big ball to fall

Wow! Congrats, with a warning.

My wife is WS. It is hurting me. I want her to stop.

When it began, I felt like one of those cancer patients that suddenly wakes up and is free and clear. I feel like every day is a gift. I also realized that I no longer wanted to be the obnoxious ****** that I was. I have asked her for forgiveness for my lack of trying in the marriage.

It is now her choice to cheat and she continues to do so.

That is exactly how I would act if she came back (metaphorically) she still has about 3 weeks before I kick her out. Those are the consequences. Understand that he is very hurt but dwelling on the past won't let you focus on the future.

Talking to the OM? I doubt I would ever want to do that. I would trounce the scumbag.

Hope all goes well.

I bet that communication is one of your top needs <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> he filled your Love Bank abit

Hey - Rach - you should keep all your stuff on one thread, and just edit the first post title when you have an update <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

It makes following your situation easier <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Please keep your posts on the same thread. It is difficult to follow your story otherwise.

OK Sorry did not know I will do so for now on in the future

I heard from him Monday, he was just calling tom kae sure I was ok.. thought that was the end of it.. Well I was wrong he called again today.. Said Hi & seeing how I was doing again, said he missed me, & that kinda confused me a little bit... Am I wrong to be confused as to why he would say this..
LIFE SUCKS just wish it would end already

did you tell your husband about the contact. It is manditory!! Did you guys write a NC letter that was signed by you and your husband to send to this guy? is this guy married? if so, have you exposed to his wife?

trust me, this will be much easier when all contact ends. if OM is contacting you, ask your husband the help make it stop.

your DH should certainly NOT thank this man. Do you want him to thank the OM?? what did you say to your DH when he suggested it?

ys I told husband that he called... I am not contacting his wife.. She will just go off on me & blame me as the reason he has called me... She was mad that when she had him say the things to me at the park that he had me stand up, she said it was a sign of respect for me & she did not appreciate it at all, So calling her is a HUGE NO NO... NOT going to happen ever,

I do not want my husband to thank him or even talk to him, but he says it is something he has to do I told him you had your chance to talk to him Sunday, at the park when we were all there & you said nothing, so why bother now... I kinda freaked out whn he suggested it I was like for what??? & he said for showing him what he was doing wrong, & that is what it took for him to realize I was slipping away from him & its time to get me back.. HE said other man showed him that, by this happening, Becasue I had always threatned if crap dont stop this will happen or I will leave, Never meant any of it though... I personally dont think it is a good idea, I really dont but I dont know how to stop himi from doing it... Any ideas or should I let him go about doing it??? I was floored mouth dropped to the floor when he said it, Dont know what to think or do about this..