[color:"pink"] [/color] Hi i need some help with an issue that has come up in mine and my fiancés life. I am 20 yrs old and my fiancé is 26, I understand that because he is allot older then me he does have allot more of a past then I do but there are two things about his past I cant seem to forget about. The first being he co signed for an ex girlfriend to buy a car when he was 18 and well because of that his credit is very bad he will have to go through bankruptcy over this because we can not pay the outstanding debt. The second is when he was 17 he got a girl pregnant, He wanted nothing to do with the child at that time and said he didn't think the child was his. Well the child went up for adoption and now just a week ago we decided to look for the mother of the child online. We found her and she told him that it was an open adoption and that she sees the child at least once a month. My fiancé was still sure that this child wasn't his and was going to ask for a dna test, That is until we saw the picture of the child. The little girl looks exactly like him she is now almost 8 and looks very happy. The reason this is so hard for me is because it was a total shock to look into the eyes of this little girl and see my fiancé i didn't think that would happen until we had our first child. Im really confused and need some advice Please.

Welcome to MB

This is what you would call baggage. Do some soul searching concerning these situations - How is it that a car loan is 8 years old ?
Why do you say "we can not pay" Have you co-mingled funds with this dead-beat ?

Have you got a wedding date ?

It doesn't look like he has taken on the responsibility that he should have by now. It seems to me he has still got some growing up to do before you start making babies with him.

Yes we do have a wedding date it's Aug 11th 2007. We have been living toghther for 2 yrs so we do share the bills but when it comes to his past debt I don't feel i should have to pay.

IMHO: You should not have to pay.

I don't know what to say about him having a child from a
previous relationship. Maybe someone else will chime in
with some good advice.

This is really sad!! And I mean for the child.

Why does he want to have anything to do with her so many years later? He has denied her all this time and now wants to contact her? Is this because of you? Would he have done this on his own?

I just have to question the motive for disrupting this childs life any further?

I don't think the past debt is your responsibilty, but it will be once you get married. I do think that he should pay this debt. At 26, he should be responsible enough to own up to this debt, he signed a contract to pay this if his ex-girlfriend didn't.

He didn't want responsibility of caring for a child either, so he just denies she was his.

I would wonder about this man's sense of responsiblity to anything before you marry him.

JMHO