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W and I are having great difficulties. She asked for D but has not acted on it yet. I am still madly in love. 12th Anniversary coming up in couple of weeks. Need SAFE idea. Don't want to push her any further but want her to know how much I still care. We have never really celebrated anniv before because of work schedules but I always tried to get her out alone for a meal and quiet time together.
Please help with ideas.
Praying that she will not leave by then.
Me 40 (paramedic/firefighter)
W 36 (clinical coordinator)
S 11
D 9
married 12 years
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Simple is probably better in this case--don't go overboard. *Ask* her ahead of time if you two can get together a certain day/time.
Where did you guys go on your first date? Is there a time and place you remember having a lot of fun together? Maybe you can make that part of your date. Go to a casual restaurant you enjoyed or go do something that involves something she really enjoys doing.
Beyond your past fun times together--where do you see yourselves in the future as a couple? What plans do you have and what are her plans? Are your plans compatible? Let her know exactly how you will support her plans. Maybe in a letter of sorts--if you can't say it in person. BUT, if you have promised her support and other things in the past, and didn't follow through--don't bother to make any more promises.
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