Hi all.
Unfortunatly I am here because my husband decided to look for sex on the internet. I found his messages to other women and read all about how he wants a discrete relationship, 1 on 1 sex and so on. He communicated with several women who responded back. He claims he never actually met up with these women. I have no proof that he did or did not. He appologized of course and said he would delete his account on that website. I am rather computer savvy and I found his password and username for that site and can still log into it under his account that he says he never paid for but I found the billing info and it matched an entry on the cc statements. I am so increadibly hurt, angry and shocked. I knew we were argueing more these days but had no idea our marriage was this bad. He keeps blameing me and says I am as affectionate as a rock. If i had been more affectionate he would not have had to go find it somewhere else. We are going to marriage counseling by my request and he made the appt. BTW, this all came about 6 days ago. I am so confussed about what to do. I don't know if I should stay or go. I am not sleeping in the same room as him now and neither of us are wearing our wedding rings. I am looking at a new place to live but have not decided to take any of the places i have looked at. He keeps telling me he does not want me to leave but he keeps bringing up divorce. I feel he is pulling himself further away from me and when I ask why he says he is having a difficut time being around me. I have gone over everything I have done, not done, said and not said in the past year, as much as I can remember and just cannot see how this could have happend. I feel so miserable and so foolish. please give me some advice

mcsparky,

1. Do not move out of your house
2. move back into your bedroom

Are there any other unexplained cc charges?

Read the infidelity FAQ's and Longhorns thread linked below in my signature.

Welcome to marriage builders.

I only found the one cc charge. Now his pay check has failed to show up in the bank. How convenient. He claims it is just late. (5 days) late. I did read the FAQ and found it to be very usefull, but it is so incredibly hard not to want to belive everything he says. I have been snooping a lot and found out he is bad mouthing me to about three different people. He is lying to me about it and says that he has not told anyone of our marriage problems. I just read three of his IM chats last night where he was fabercating some story of me closing the checking account and taking away keys. What fantisy land is he in. I have not done anything to the checking except add more money to it to cover all the checks that would bounce because his check is not there. As far as keys... I do not even know where that came from. He is telling people he has trust issues reguarding me, and he is thinking about taking a buch of stuff from the house to his mothers because he thinks I will steal them. How can I possible sleep in the same room as him when he is destroying me.