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Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802920 01/04/07 10:08 PM
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675 J JustKeepGoin Member
JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	Quote I am not even sure what I am doing on here, I realize by your answers and my replies to you that I have nothing to salvage. I realize this was the end result to my pushing it. She was not finished up and I should have allowed her to we may have been on our way to a life together. Having given her another few months back then may have given me a life time with her. Sorry for your pain. But you can still save this Marriage. Other have been in worse shape and recovered. You will need to find out what is going on because something most definitely is. Then when you know you can make a plan how to attack it. First thing is Knowing. Knowledge is Power! Get busy spying and get yourself together. You are going to have to be strong. You know she doesn't respect you right know because you are caving in to her. With knowledge you will begin to gather strength. Strength you will need for the upcoming confrontation. Then after you stand up to her and expose and show her you will fight for your M you will start to look attractive to her again out of strength. JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802921 01/04/07 10:10 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote I am still in time to find real love somewhere else I do realize this is and has been all for not. you are in no shape to be in a relationship you ARE depressed kiddo Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Pepperband #1802922 01/04/07 10:13 PM
Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862 M Marshmallow Member
Marshmallow Member M Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862	LOL @ your sig line. When I read that today, I almost added it to mine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ~ Marsh

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Marshmallow #1802923 01/04/07 10:13 PM
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston C Chasey Member
Chasey Member C Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston	I describe hers as honesty to her experience, the same as I would describe yours. This is about sharing experiences and she is the only one from all of us that has given me the negative and it was her doing the negative. It made me realize I have a problem ahead of me financially as well, I had not thought about that in depth until tonight. I was also surprised a woman would admit what she did. My wife only apologized but did not admit anything else. I now wonder what to do if I decide to let her go as Boss Lady scared me with the ugly truth about divorce.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802924 01/04/07 10:23 PM
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JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	Why don't you get busy and fight to save your M instead of giving up so easily? JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802925 01/04/07 10:27 PM
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JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	You said You have a Pi hired. Get the info when he reports back to you report back here so the gang can help you with a plan to fight to save your M. Much better than giving up in desparation. And much more rewarding in the long run whatever the outcome. JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802926 01/04/07 10:29 PM
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Chasey Member C Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston	I have been fighting for 12 mths and for the 3 mths she was having the affair and for the time before that period. It has not worked. I would continue but she is not doing any of the work with me. It takes 2 to make a marriage work. She did not totaly want it when she came back to me, I should have realized the truth then but my ego would not allow me to see it. My family members were telling me to leave it be, I was insisting on it and now I realize they were right and I was wrong. I plan on asking her why she does not desire me as she should, it has been over one yr this should have worked by now.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802927 01/04/07 10:35 PM
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Chasey Member C Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston	I will and thanks for your ear. I should hear something over the weekend or even tomorrow.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802928 01/04/07 10:37 PM
Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862 M Marshmallow Member
Marshmallow Member M Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,862	JKG, I believe he doesn't need or want our help. I believe he has another agenda that is not helpful to those who are hurting from A's and who want to recover their M. ~ Marsh

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802929 01/04/07 10:38 PM
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JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	The fighting and work I am talking about is not what you have been doing. You have not gotten to the bottom of the problem. The real problem is who is she still having an A with some OM. End the A then you can start working on the M. But not until the OM is out of the picture!!!!! You cannot work on the M without honest and open communication. Right now there is someone else in the mix and there is no honest open communication going on between you and your W. There will not be any until the OM is out of the picture. JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Marshmallow #1802930 01/04/07 10:41 PM
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JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	Marsh, I'm afraid he is trying to find a reason to just run away from it. Hope I am wrong. JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Marshmallow #1802931 01/04/07 10:44 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote JKG, I believe he doesn't need or want our help. I believe he has another agenda that is not helpful to those who are hurting from A's and who want to recover their M. ~ Marsh smart girl you LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802932 01/04/07 10:44 PM
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JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	Marsh, I think I missed something in your last post. Are we talking to a Trol? JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802933 01/04/07 10:45 PM
Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp P Pepperband Member
Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	tick tock tick tock time will tell LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Marshmallow #1802934 01/04/07 10:47 PM
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston C Chasey Member
Chasey Member C Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston	If I did not want help I would not be on here. Now I see that if I do not agree with you then I have another agenda. I need help not to be inflicted negative feedback such as this. I have obviously made a mistake coming on to this site. My agenda has been and is to save my marriage but I think we can all agree it is hard to move forward. I now understand what my pastor was telling me about the risk of going on these types of sites.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802935 01/04/07 10:47 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	you are depressed take the prescribed medication your doctor gave you LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Pepperband #1802936 01/04/07 10:54 PM
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County B believer Member
believer Member B Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County	Depressed? Maybe. Thanks for all of you that reached out to him. Hopefully he will get help somewhere else. This is the CRAP that makes me sick.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Pepperband #1802937 01/04/07 10:58 PM
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675 J JustKeepGoin Member
JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	Not even trying to chase you off. But no one can help you if your ignore all the experienced advice that has been given. And we have to drag information out of you. If you really want help let us know what you find out from your PI. We can work with that. But not if you run away. Last edited by JustKeepGoin; 01/04/07 10:59 PM. JKG

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually JustKeepGoin #1802938 01/04/07 11:10 PM
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston C Chasey Member
Chasey Member C Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 25 Boston	Thanks, I definitely appreciate your help. I am scared of what lies ahead of me. I can see you believe in humans. I don't want to run away but I have hit a dead end. I do not know how to make this work.

Re: I want my wife to want me emotionally and sexually Chasey #1802939 01/04/07 11:15 PM
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675 J JustKeepGoin Member
JustKeepGoin Member J Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 675	If you are serious you need to get busy and find out what is really going on with your W. It has nothing to do with you guaranteed. She is in an A of somekind. investigate, expose, kill it, Get real NC. then you work on restoration. That's a plan! It's up to you. Last edited by JustKeepGoin; 01/04/07 11:16 PM. JKG

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