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The other day I confronted my WS. Textbook responses, and acqusations, but open to talk. At this point it is a EA.
Problem for me: My WS is on the road for 2 weeks, with no real time to communicate. I think the phone & emial are really tough ways to bring up the subject of our confrontation about her EA. At the same time she can't see the good things that I am working on and how they are changing for the better. I am taking the carrot & stick approach, working on my issues, building a good home, and pampering myself a bit. BUT how do I know, how do I approach, how do I talk to them about what they are going throuogh. From what I have read I am just supposed to work on me and let them come to me. But 2 weeks is a long time. Any ideas as to what I can do to get WS to open up. One of our big issues has been I try and analyze, plan, and give advice.
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To whom did you expose the affair? Who is "them?"
Have you read Surviving an Affair?
Does your wife travel for a living?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Also, who is the OM? Can you tell me everything you know about him?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I was the Spouse who was very active last week with the topic I've read an email I shouldn't have. I changed my handle.
Told WS's brother who was visiting the OM this week. WS travels a lot, but not near the OM.
You've been very helpful and I have been reading a lot of articles, His Needs, HEr needs, etc, but haven't gotten SAA
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ahh, gotcha! Thanks for clearing that up!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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