just another boring day... it is hard with nothing to say and can't do nothing... bored out of my mind...

It is hard here money is tight, man life sucks....

(((jim)))

Just wanted to say-

yep, life can suck. But it will get better-I know.

I don't think you are quitting. I think you are doing what you have to do to stay healthy. I know I was where you are, wondering why my XH-a former pastor-was willingly walking away from our M against God's written word. But, I came to understand what Dr. Phil says over and over-the only person we have control over is ourselves.

I wish I had more encouragement. Hang in there.

johnstwin-

Jim,
If you are bored AND money is tight, get a 2nd job. My best friend's twin brother is recently divorced, he had the same deal. His 2nd job is working at a sub shop, he loves it because it keeps him busy, camraderie, more money and less time to spend money because he was bored or depressed. He would quit his 1st job before quitting that 2nd job even though it pays 1/6th what his 1st job does.

that is a good idea a i will have to look at that closly...
Even a night a week and maife 4-6 hrs on a weekend would be goo, beer money and keeping busy meeting people...

Jim

Jim -
Haven't been able to talk to you. My dad was sick and I flew to Seattle suddenly. Got back yesterday, and my phone is out, but they should be fixing it soon.

Sorry you aren't feeling any better. Things will improve. I promise you that.

Believer,

S&C & I have been keeping a watchful eye on Jim in your absence.

Howz your dad doing?

Hugz,
L.

Aloha Jim,

One thing my brother did afer his D. He loved basketball, so he started as an assistant coach; worked his way up tpo coaching his own teams and He loves it. Now he coaches and referees youth basketball games.

Take one of your hobbies or interests and find a group of under privledged kids and teach them a skill they can use forever.

Just a thought. Bless you.

S&C

Believer, Your dad needed you and family comes first! I hope your pop is doing better!

You have nothing to appolixe to me for. You have been a pillar of stregnth, I have leaned on too many times to count, you have been my safe harbor in the strom, You have been the lighthouse for me in the fog, when I couldn't see my way... Ill chat at you this weekend...

Thanks for being my friend...

Jim

Orchid, SFC, and a wonderful job you are doing...

It is hard... but I learned something this week I am making progress (just too slowly for my liking).

That came about from 2 phone calls with a diffrent friends also BS... It caused me to realize it... in both cases

I ended up taking them to task, refocusing their energy and sight inward to their own power on what they can control, and not ceeding their power to the WS and what they can't control.

They need to frankly let go of the anger, let go of the negitivity. It isn't pretty, and even I don't want nothing to do with it or a pitty party. IMO it is eating them up...
I can't deal with the negitivity right now, I can't go there. I need to look for every positive to embrace them and to hold them close.

It would be to easy to hold on to the anger and bitternes, to let it rot my soul and pull me down that dark rat hole. NO i need to follow the path to the light, to happiness and inner peace.

Of course it is still going to darn slow! I am still lonley, I still have my issues with low self worth caused by the WS 's A... I see my lighthouse's beacon now in then light now and then, i just wish the storm would abate faster...

Jim

"S&C & I have been keeping a watchful eye on Jim in your absence."

THANKS!!!!!

My dad is doing better. He is 92, and has heart failure and cancer. Last year about this same time, I flew to Seattle because he was doing poorly. But he keeps rallying, so that is good. And mom needs my support.

Sorry for the TJ, Jim. Hang in there, and things will get better. You are such a good guy and have so much to offer. Your wife is being foolish.

Yea I know...

I feel really sorry for her too, she is running from something (maybe herself)... you can't out run you have to face it... So I feel bad for her. She was a good gal and a decent lady, until the Funk caught her (or she caught it)...

Someday she will look back and realise she let a keeper get away... I maybe a dimond in the rough, but I am a dimond just the same. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />..

beliver... phone back up yet?

Stand by. Will be on the road soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

checkin in...

Doing ok still getting stronger, actually I feel I will be ok and will make it most of the time... Still get triggered and blue at times however... Like the dreams i wrote about in the other thread...

Still no actions/indications from WW she has any intention on returning to the M. We have 3 months until the D goes to court so time is growing pretty short. I don't think she will pull out of the crash dive in time...

I am thinking, planning and acting as if it is over, that is the safest for me at this time.

That is about it... anyone else felt like I feel...

Beleiver have tried calling is your phone out of order still?


Jim





I am

calling beiever you out there?

jim

I'm right there with you Jim. I haven't posted much, but I check up on you from time to time.

My WW hit bottom and is still there. No indication of personal recovery for her. She's in a horrible place and I hurt for her, but right now she just wants to believe that I hate her and want to take DS from her and I am trying to destroy her. There's no getting through so I too had to let her go. If she ever heals maybe we still have a chance if I'm still available.

I'm sure we're experiencing the same feelings so we just have to hang on and keep moving foward.

We'll be alright.

yup mine is still runnung... I don't think she will ever stop...

Jim

ok folks... WW just called, she "Just found the Mailbox Key in her car" She is going to bring it out to my house tonight at 6pm... Any ideas what might be up her sleive? Do you beleive it is a mailbox key?

Jim

was a 15 min visit... she was prompt and exactly on time. brought the Step kids too. came to back door and entered like she had never left just walked in, no doorbell, knocking... that is a first since she left...

Metetin was low key hugged kissed Step kids... she put key on table.. i gave her more stuff i found (wedding stuff)... asked if she wanted our engament photo... she says it was an awsome picture of US and WE looked great togeather... Her first use of US/We (talking of us as a singular unit) in months... no hugging no kiss no R talk,

One question she asked did stand out, she asked if I had found a roommate... why I don't know...

I do know I didn't feel a lick of tension or presure.
Not an Ill word came out of her moth she spoke kinda acked the the W not the WW...

She asked if I could fix her printer if the plugs i sent didn;t work, it seems she was almost setting up for another visit.

when she left i think she did shoot me a couple smiles...

I played cards close, and didn;t LB or nothing... it was short but plesent visit... what does it all mean I havn't a clue...


any tea leave readers out there...


Jim

Off the top of my head, sounds like a reconnaissance mission <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Just keep playing it cool. And give her reasons to visit again. "Sure, bring the printer tomorrow so I can have a look at it..."