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To recap my situation:
Wife had two ONS (same guy) 6 months ago - alcohol involved
3 weeks ago I learned of an EA - was told 'just friends' and also learned of PA noted above.
2 weeks ago told WW willing to work on marriage but was hurt - she claimed she would too. Asked her not to meet OM in the EA (at that point only online) - she agreed and said it was over.
Following week she ignored her promise, met OM about 4 times supposedly for 'dinner' only. OM is single and 28 years old - makes OK money and is basically an internet obsessive type (stayed in on his computer even during new years night!) but WW says he 'listens to her'
Confronted re above 3 days ago, she said NC and would go home (leave country) to her parents for 1.5 weeks. Parents are strongly Catholic and horrified with what she has done. Had another long talk, fog seemed to lift and she said she wanted to work on things. NC promised - she called Thursday to 'end it' and ranted to him for 2 hours. Said after that (1 AM at that point) it was over.
Yesterday found train ticket in her jacket - she went to other guys house for 7 hours. Supposedly 'just kissed' but who knows what reality is.
Today refused to agree not to go to OM, left 4 hours ago, claims she will come home tonight. Her flight out of the coutnry is tomorrow.
Advice? How do you handle NC breaks - go to plan B?
I am sorry to say the parinoid people on these boards were 100% right!!
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Have you exposed to OM's parents? Don't let her go over there. If she goes over there, follow her. Don't let her sleep with OM. It WILL happen if you let it. Don't let them have "break up sex."
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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Probably too late. Both her cell phones are off.
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LD...I would take all of her stuff you can muster, put it outside the front door, and lock it. A man can only take so much "in your face" disrespect.
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