I've been separated for two months, and my WW has been involved with a coworker for some time.
who moved out?
how long ago did she begin her affair?
Discovery was one month ago, exposure took place the next day to bosses and family, and confrontation took place after.
so you separated BEFORE discovery ... why is that?
Constant pressure on the bosses has been applied, and Plan A has been in full effect for two months.
besides exposure (congratulations on doing that)
what has your Plan A looked like?
in other words, how are you making yourself the better choice?
Recently, the conversation has shifted to mentioning of suicide by WW ("Sometimes it would be so much easier"), how things are too messy and too much has happened, and a non-committal/non-remorseful approach.
I'd call her parents and mention that they ought to offer WW (daughter) support as she mentioned suicide, albeit in a non-serious way ... but show your concern by asking them to support her emotionally as she is so fragile
Plan A continues to avoid talks of the R or M except when initiated by the W, and lengthy conversations have been taking place. WW has finally began mentioning how much she has missed me, how hard this has been for her, and how undecided she is on whether or not she wants to come back. When asked if still involved with the OM, she avoids the question. Asked if she will continue to see him, she says "I don't know". Things are fragile, and I'm a bit afraid of her recent talk.
OK ... she is fragile, and she should be ... she's breaking her own internal laws ... and with good people, there is a price to pay when we break our own internal laws
gotta run now.... ask questions !
Pep
