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Have read on a recent post from a BS that his W had cervical(sp) cancer and a partial hysterectomy 2 years ago. No one replied to that particular sitch and I am wondering if it is just Paronoid me that scratches his head.

Cervical cancer is casued by an HPV infection in 95% of all cases. The AMA has announced that they will no longer spend research monies on the cause of cervical cancer, because they know it is caused by an HPV infection, 95% of the time.

Thus the vaccine to treat young women, 13 to 21 years of age, that would prevent the contraction of this STD.

Should a certain poster, who may be unaware of this be enlightned, or is there enough crap on his plate already?

I hope he doesn't read this.

All Blessings,
Jerry

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ST, I don't believe males are directly affected by HPV - they are the carriers - but of course he has every right and every responsibility to know the health status of his sex partner.

Are you concerned because he may be a carrier, or because he thought his WW was only having an EA and not a PA?
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males are impacted by HPV in some cases...they cause genital warts.

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Mulan,
I am concerned that a certain poster has not picked up on the fact the she had cervical cancer, which is 95 % certain of HPV. If he is not aware, or does not have this disease, than surely she picked it up elsewhere.

I guess I'm hypersensitive to this as my w's infidelity was revealed to to thru my MD.

Not an easy way to find out, but, is there an easy way? I guess not.

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Hi, shine.

The problem with HPV is that it can manifest itself even DECADES after contracting it.

So while it may be a good indicator that someone has been somewhere they shouldn't have been, it is rarely a CERTAIN indicator of infidelity.

You are right that someone with cervical cancer likely has HPV type 6,11 or 16.

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Hi gimble,
You are right in that HPV can manifest itself years later, but that is in fact, not the usual scenerior for this disease.

the CDC in Atlanta, states that if HPV is to maifest itself, it will most likely occur anywhere from 3 mos. to two years. After that it is extremely rare, but not unheard of.

Thanks for your thoughts, I think I will drop this as it will probably serve no good purpose.

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Should a certain poster, who may be unaware of this be enlightned, or is there enough crap on his plate already?

Would you like to know if there was the possibility that, not only did your S cheat on you, but they might have passed on an STD to you?


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Mulan

I don't know exactly what you mean by this:
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ST, I don't believe males are directly affected by HPV -


I can tell you with authority that I was impacted, because my wife became infected with her OM and gave it to me.

Thus , I don't understand you statement above at all. Less I miss my guess, you don't have ant knowledge about this disease at all. No disrespect intended, you are not alone. Read the CDC report and judge for yourself.

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Well MIM,
The answer is yes. I would have rather heard it from my W, than my MD. Does that make sence?

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Hi, shine.

I understand that two years or less is the norm, but there is a lot of new research coming out that renders the CDC's findings pretty obsolete.

The thing is, if you came down with it, there is no sure way to know what the vector was, even though the most likely would be a spouse.

I spoke to a dermatologist friend about this very thing regarding a friend of mine earlier this year. The doctor told me to tell him "do NOT accuse your wife, there is no way to know for sure".

Some of the newer research hints at non-sexual vectors for what was previously considered sexual only variations of HPV. In other words, it looks like a common handshake might be a vector, but no one will stick their head out and claim it just yet.

Too weird.

Gimble


-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.

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