Since my WH didn't wear his much due to work (or so I assumed...shame on me) I had both after Dday. I wore both for many months. Then, sometime in the winter, I took them off and placed themin a stone heart shaped jewelry box a friend had given me from Israel.

I have put them on once or twice since then, but they pretty much remain in the heart...kind of a metaphor...ya know like my plan B...all stored safely until the time comes to bring them out.

Now isn't that special!!!

I'm wearing mine of a chain around my neck...

Just as a reminder...I took it off this past Easter...

It was time!

I took mine off for a few days after D-day #1 .... I noticed that H had his off, so I thought that was what I was supposed to do. That lasted a couple of weeks, then I asked the same question here ... and decided that ***I*** am still married, even if he doesn't think he is. I've worn at least the wedding band ever since.

I used to get very upset about H not wearing his. (At the time I thought we were in recovery, turned out we'd never made it that far). I finally just very recently figured out how to let go of that, let it be about him and not me, and quit trying to figure out his motives .... I even told him that, yes, I notice it, but it's the same way I'd notice if he wasn't wearing a shirt. And very shortly after that is when he started wearing his again.

-AmI.

My WH wore his right up until the day he left. He had taken it off (actually, had taken his off quite often complaining of it digging into a callous on his finger... which really is there...but he wore it everytime he left the house)

When he left, he left it there on the end table. I brought it to him after he had been gone a few days. I asked him to pl\ease keep it with him. He agreed to.

He has not been wearing it, he says it in the drawer at work, which if that is true, he sees it everytime he opens it.

I myself will never take mine off. I am married. 100%

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My wife took hers off only when she came home. LOL. It only lasted a week. She's worn them ever since.

I wore mine for a long time but then had to pawn it for money. I'm still paying the monthly fee hoping to get it back eventually. I would like to wear them as a symbol of being committed to our marriage. Until there is a final hearing of divorce, I am still married. Whether he is commited to our marriage or not doesn't change my committment.

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WW hadn't worn hers in a couple of years, mostly wore an anniversary band I gave her. It was probably a sign of her loss of love for me and our M. She claimed the anniversary band was more comfortable. Well, a few weeks after D-day, she doesn't wear anything at all. I soon realized that our old M is truly dead, so I took mine off to symbolize that.

In my heart I'm still committed to my M and remaining true to WW. My dream is that we truly recover, and if that joyous time ever arrives, I'll buy her a new engagement ring with a huge diamond that I can afford now (we married when I was poor & 22), and we renew our vows! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Defniately a symbol of the marriage as I read the response of everyone whether that kept it on or not was whether they gave of hope.

Says A lot about me. The ring caused part of the Affair. I got a new ring on our ten year anniversary. He just handed it to me and said that he could have bought two kayaks for the same price. I was hurt it was like I am giving you what you want but i could have been happier if I had the money. Consequently, my wedding ring became destroyed a week later. I wear the thing for 10 years and nothing. Then just as my marriage begins to sour, it gets banged on a table while i was playing pool and the band warped. Symbolic at the least. It happend the day H tells me he hasn't loved me for ten years. I tried to wear it for the next year, but it hurt my finger and would cut off circulation. The new ring was loose and not a important to me by this time. H alludes to it being the start of the A.

Oh H never wears his ever- of course he wanted the platinum and gold combo and it just sits.

I wore mine until I went into Plan B. I took the ring off and put a ring that I inherited from my mother in it's place. I packed my ring up with other rings and things that WH had gotten me and placed it out in the garage with his 'things'. WH took his off when he left, and said that he 'carries it in his bag'. My response, "So, what's the point of telling me that?" His reply, "I just wanted you to know that I think about it and have it with me". Ah, his commitment is just bolling me over... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I wore it the whole time except for a month in the early days. I took it off when the divorce was final (April 2006). I sold it last month to a coin shop, to pay bills.

I felt weird about selling it. After I sold it - no sentimental regret whatsoever. zip.

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I'm three months into it, still wearing my ring every day and night, even though my wife, possibly still WW, often doesn't when she goes out (including tonight, hence possible still WW). Ay-yay-yay what are we going to do with these wayward spouses!

Prior to D-day, we both wore our rings all the time. Right after D-day, she left the ring on the table and went out "for a walk to think". A few days later, I (stupidly) thought things could be improving and crying, gave the ring back to her and told her "please wear it, you're still my wife". She put it on without any emotion, I still remember.

The day she returned from the mom's place in March, I immediately saw that she wasn't wearing it, so I asked her "I assume you have something to tell me?".. that was when she gave me that line about wanting to "move out and reconsider the marriage". I didn't ask for the ring back, but recall her telling me gleefully one of those days before she moved out how a lady shopkeeper remarked that she was so young and pretty and was surprised when WS said she was married because the lady didn't see a ring.

Anyway, on my part, it's always with me... took it off and hung it on the gold chain around my neck for a while, then wore it on the right hand ring finger for a while, and now its back on the left hand. I'm still married even if I'm the only one that thinks so and will wear it until the day after D is finalized (if it comes to that). I find myself looking at it to remind myself of that fact when I find my eyes straying to other women of late <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I took mine off on D-day - the same night my WH took his bags, kissed his 1 year old daughter goodbye and got on the last flight of the evening to fly 10,000 miles back into the arms of OW.

Now the divorce is going to be final in a few months, I might start thinking about what to do with the diamonds...maybe something for my daughter.

Mine came off Feb 16th when I saw she had her's removed... I fear it will never go back on...

Off. I no longer have a dent on my wedding finger. My husband doesn't wear his either cos he lost loads of weight (we got that the wrong way round - supposed to be the BS that loses on the infidelity diet!)

I no longer have that dent either, kind of sad. I pawned mine and his 20 yrs ago after finding out about what I thought was firt A (that was 2nd) got back together, a few years later bought both of us wedding bands, never really knew that he was so mad that I pawned our original set that he refused to replace them, twisted huh? He bought me a big beautiful set because someone was poking fun at my band, thought I should have better after all these yrs of M. those have been off my finger and given back to him when I moved out after finding out about more A's.

My H took his off on [my] DDay and has only put it on once (at a family dinner before he told his parents). He says his ring is "cold". I took mine off on [his] DDay, but had it back on in a matter of hours. I just couldn't bear to not wear them ... I want so badly for our M to work out. Wearing them reminds me of what I'm working for. I'm hoping one day we can renew our vows and I'll buy him a new one. What I wouldn't give to see his ring back on and to hear "I love you".

When I filed for divorce, I took it off. He wore his until we were divorced. However, in my lawyer's office I saw a pornographic-style photo of my STBX having sex with some woman which had been downloaded off his hard drive by my hacker-person. In the photo, he was NOT wearing his ring. So, I suppose it would be accurate to say that he wore his ring around for all the world to see, except when he was scr*wing other women.