Well, they survive blizzards, we'll see how they do with a hurricane.

IHC,
I've recently gone through this anger business. It eats you up if you don't find an outlet for it. I hope your night out does you some good. I'm sure it will.

I haven't had as much time to post lately, but I worry about you and pray for you. I'll stop by as often as I can to either hug you or throw something off the wall your way.

I truly feel for you and your sitch. Now that I'm in a better place I can't believe what others endure even though I've gone through it myself. So I'm proof that it gets better even when the M doesn't survive.

I'm always close by if you need anything.

Rin,

Thank you!

I am seeing this struggle as a way to improve myself...it just sometimes has been too overwhelming!!! Most days I do fine, the waves gently lapping at my feet. But every once in a while...that wave just crashes over my head and I get swept away. I don't even see it coming, but boy does it knock me on my butt!

BC,

YOU help out more than you know. HUMOR is my coping mechanism and between you, chris and SDG..I am getting better all the time! Thank you all so much!

I will be back in fightin form soon...just a lot of triggers hitting all at once.

I too am looking to start attending a DivorceCare group. I just need to know what is normal for this process. Not having a point of reference has been hard. I just want to know that I am on the right track as far as healing goes. I DO NOT want to bring baggage into a new relationship...

I just want to be loved and appreciated again...but it is scary to think of that too. So until it isn't so scary...waiting will be the name of the game!

You welcome...you can take care of Sdguy's SCQ and I'll take care of BC's STBXW...

I can "help" her too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

This breaks my heart. I'm so sorry. It's unbelievable the stupid things that WS's do, but we see examples like this every day. I still can't help but thinking the "If only they could see. . ."

For example, what I want to do now is find BDS and walk up to him and say "You don't know me, but your son said this. How does that make you feel about how you're living your life?" I'm not a violent person, so my weapon of choice is words. On the other hand, WS fog is probably so thick that a beating is what's required in this case.

(((IHC)))

Not the violent kind either...but oh how I wish I could just cut them down with some well timed, well spoken speech that just nails them!

For my kids sake, I bite my tongue! Like you say...they don't hear it anyway.

BDS ususally hears it at the moment...feels bad, then talks to SH(skanky ho) and she helps him justify his way right out of it.

Dog poo...just piles of stinky dog poo!!!

Sound like you need a pooper scooper

and maybe some Fabreeze

Hey guys...

Been very busy and unable to post...plus my computer was stolen and I had to replaqce it...luckily it was at work, so no money out of my pocket.

I am in a very dark place right ow. Cannot seem to get my heart to stop aching. I am angry, sad, depressed, anxious, lonely, hurting...trouble sleeping...

My mind will not stop replaying the painful events of this last year. I just feel so low right now.

Please help me out...I need some humor...just wish this was all over and I could feel normal again!

Perhaps you need some psychiatric help for 5 cents: Lucy offers Charlie Brown Emotional Outlets. I believe all you need is to kick the habit! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Will you tell us what's going on???

(((((IHC)))))

--CJ

IHC'S BACK!!! IHC'S BACK!!!

Sorry about the funk.

I know where you're at IHC, I'm just coming out of that funk. It doesn't last forever.

No words of wisdom. Me and Chrisner recently demonstrated some pretty entertaining Plan FUs. It's helped us out, but it's not something I recommend. Might help to check it out though.

Here's some entertainment to cheer you up

Get On Your Feet People

HI, it's good to hear from you! i look forward to hearing more...like CJ asked...What's happening?

I've missed you, IHC, so it's good to hear from you. I'm a little down myself, right now, but I'll see what I can do.

Nothing has really happened. I think it is all just weighing down on me. Yesterday was Father's Day and it hurt to know that someone else was celebrating that day with the father of my children.

He never even tries to break contact...he has truly gotten what he wanted...to start over.

Now even though I do not want him back, I still love him. I hate that I still have feelings for him after all the pain that he has put me through.

Financially he has been less than stellar in paying child support, and the wage assignment is in the red tape stage...so I am getting further and further behind...with no end in sight.

I am frustrated because I had been doing so well and now I feel like I am back at the beginning...reliving all the hurt, conversations, imagining them together, etc. I had been past all this. I hate this.

I just want to feel loved again, respected, treated like a princess..etc...the whole she-bang. But at the same time I know that I need more time to heal before taking this "baggage" into a new relationship.

I have been like this for about a month and it just won't let up...I just want to feel normal again. It is just ddepression...plain and simple and the meds have not started working yet...

(((((IHC)))))

Wish I had something helpful to say. Sorry that you're going through this right now.

Thinking of you!

-AmI.

You have been made privy to some very damaging information. YOUR HUSBAND has fathered another child. YOUR HUSBAND! No Divorce has taken place! I would be amazed if you were A-OK with any of this. It's like another Dday; a new discovery.

Remember, just live minute to minute, then hour to hour, then day to day, and it will get better. Oh, IHC, I am so sorry that you have more to deal with. Just live YOUR life as best you can. Right now, this may be difficult, but you know you will persevere.

Imagine how much more difficult it would be without Plan B, without the golden silence. Not all is well in affairland, don't believe that for one minute. He doesn't have everything that he ever wanted, IHC. YOU are not there. His family is not there. His home is not there. It is NOT all good...

IHC,

Sorry you're having such a rough time.

Sending strength and hugs

We're here for you.

((((IHC)))

I will truly pray for you.

Thank you all so much...I have missed being here...

Yeah, that's all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

IHC, I wish I could tell you that you ought to feel better, but I don't see how you could. I'd be shocked if you weren't feeling some depression, so I hope the meds kick in soon. I don't want to think about where I'd be without them.

You're still on the roller coaster, doing what you need to to get through the day. You can do it because you are an incredible, strong woman.

I guarantee you that things will get so much better, you won't believe it. If I knew when, I would tell you. . . .

(((IHC)))

Financially I am so screwed right now...I am 2 months behind on almost everything. I am close to losing my house (which selling is my only hope for getting out of this mess), my car, the gas, phone, etc...

I cannot do this anymore...it is too much. It just makes me want to run away...and hide from everything.

My kids are the only reason I keep pushing on...but I am so close to losing everything else...

It is too heavy a burden to bear! I have been broke before, but never behind like this...and no way of fixing it...it is completely beyond my ability to do anything about it.

SIGH!!!!