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Thank you for any advice at this point. My husband and I have been together for over 10 years. He is a wonderful person and we were very close. We started arguing a lot and I am starting to realize I must have been depressed for a while but didn't realize it. He said everything was fine. Then about a couple of months ago he said he was "done". We have a toddler and I was shocked. I also was still in the process of a miscarriage. I thought giving him space was the answer and then about a month later found out by a neighbor (at my door) that he is having an affair. I was in some way relieved b/c I knew at least it was something. But since that time I have been hoping he would come around but he has done the opposite. He has put our finances, his career, all of us at jeopardy for this affair. I have read if you say anything you push them the other way- so I have just said nothing. He is being quite horrible to me but I keep on saying we are here for you but he is now threatening to sue me for divorce. I cannot believe he is throwing everything away and he doesn't see it. Due to the circumstances, it is to the advantage of the other person to inflate my husband's ego. I am extremely saddened by all of this and I am hoping he reaches his senses. I have remained silent and he has been nothing but mean to me. My family and close friends want me to give up on him but I feel I know him and in some ways I can't see him drown. But he is not looking out for me or my child only himself - is there anything I can do and at what point do I start to protect myself? I feel he is lost and I don't want to give up on him for my sake but more importantly for my son and even my husband's sake. Thanks for any advice. I have become the enemy without even trying. It is all really sad!
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The tools are on this site to help you. Perhaps you need to move to another board. There is a Just Found Out board that can help you. I think the site says to expose the affair, and most affairs end when brought to light.
There is advice on the Concepts area of this website to recover marriages, even with infidelity.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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Like Newly, I recommend you post on the Just Found Out board. Please. The resources are here to help you. Don't give up on your marriage.
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