My H and i have been married for 7 yrs. and together for 9. My step s (10 yrs.) and I are close. Anyone with Stepchildren? My H says that he will not come between us that he sees how important our relationship is to his son, but his mom blames me for everything. I called CPS on her for abusing her son(s). She now wants to keep me away from her son. I have always been there for him and he feels safe with me. My H and i have 2 children S(8) and D(5), and they are also close with thier brother. Telling my SS about the divorce was harder than tell my own kids. I feel like i failed him, he looked so sad. I told him that i love him and will always be there for him, that the divorce does not change that. I told him that no one can take our love for eachother away from us. This is the hardest part of the divorce... the effect on my SS and I.
Anyone with similar? I so need guidance.
lea

Check out Bugmoms on the General Questions II she signed the papers today but she has a child and a stepson with her ex.

Life Reclaimed,

I just happened to see your thread and thought I'd stop by. My D was final yesterday. I have a DSS who is 13. I have been his "Mom" since he was 5. For me, his bio-mom has been out of the picture completely since he was 7, so I am sorry I can not relate to your exact sitch.

I can tell you that although I have no legal ties to DSS (as my WH made sure his A informed me last week), he is MY SON. Always and forever. I have told him this as many times as possible. When my WH moved out last Nov., I fully expected DSS to stay with me, but he did not. But, I have continued 'visitation' just the same as my DD has done with my WH.

I will not change this unless DSS does not want to see me.
I'd advise you to do the same as much as possible.

I have to take my DD to gymnastics but will ck back with you later.

Hang in there! I TOTALLY understand the feeling of letting down the Step child, perhaps even more than your own kids. They've already been through so much! Just the fact that you are here talking about it shows how much you care & THAT is the important thing.