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Can someone link me to the No Contact letter draft thing?
I been looking for 15 mins and I cant find it.
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Told her about changing my # and giving her the letter.
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sweetlilthang981: y would u change ur number if ur the one who contacted her n the first place unless theres more.
sweetlilthang981: zach all u do is put it on ur away like u do now ****** half of central sluts know it from one of those sources (Shes talking about AOL Instant Messenger)
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You still don't get it!!!!!!!!!!!!
LEAVE YOUR WIFE ALONE...
DON'T DISCUSS WHAT YOU ARE DOING ---- DON'T SENT LETTERS!!!
DON'T CALL AND DISTURB HER.....
This process of actions requires a few days of down time and time to receive some feedback for your letters and correcting and revising.......
YOU ARE MANIPULATING HER ----STOP IT!!!!!
This is not a game of you getting her back...
So stop playing that way...
Start by loosing all those thank you's in your letter and all those I love you's and Im your soul mate trash....
THATS MANIPULATION!!!
Clean it up and try again
AND LEAVE HER ALONE........
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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ok thanks tst, I will remove them right now. I wasnt sure on if I should tell her about the letter and such.
Ill edit my letter and leave my W alone.
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Ok I edited some of it out...how does that look?
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If he doesn't close doors to OW through NC letter and changing cell phones, I want no part in him wooing his wife back. He may woo her back, but will inevitably devastate her again because he left doors WIDE open. I completely agree. Bless you both SMB and tst. tst, I read your thread the other night. I have to say that you have my respect. I admire your choices and the strength of character you've shown.
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Ive read your thread also tst, I admire you greatly. Ive read through some of SMB,your such a strong person, reminds me of my W.
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Heres my NC Letter....
Dear Crystal,
I am writing this letter to you for the sake of me and my wife’s future relationship together. I understand you may be mad or have anger towards me, but I had made a huge mistake of doing what I did with you. I was living in a fantasy during the time I spent with you, and I realized this is not what I want. I finally woke up and realized my wife was suffering because of the decisions I had made. And I finally realized during the period of time I spent with you that my wife is what is more important to me and what I want. I apologize for doing the things I may have lead you to believe and I should have stopped what had happened before it had happened. Im writing this letter to let you know I no more want any further contact with you for the sake of my marriage. I want to work on myself and my relationship with my wife, I realize I made a big mistake and that wasn’t the person I really am. I want to spend the rest of my life with my wife and I hope you understand this. So for the sake of my marriage im going to have to end all contact with you through phone, email, instant messenger, everything. I hope you understand my wife is want is most important to me in my life and I apologize for any hurt I put you through. I want to make my marriage work and be with my wife and I will no longer have any contact with you. Hope you understand.
-Zach
Any suggestions?
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LA Where ya been?
You too meremortal
I miss your posts
And again thank you all for being here.
Please continue to help me become a better husband. From this day forward I will do it the MB way.
tst- Continue to help me, you were in my shoes. your a big inspriation for me
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Heres my NC Letter....
Dear Crystal,
I am writing this letter to you for the sake of me and my wife’s future relationship together. I understand you may be mad or have anger towards me, but I had made a huge mistake of doing what I did with you. I was living in a fantasy during the time I spent with you, and I realized this is not what I want. I finally woke up and realized my wife was suffering because of the decisions I had made. And I finally realized during the period of time I spent with you that my wife is what is more important to me and what I want. I apologize for doing the things I may have lead you to believe and I should have stopped what had happened before it had happened. Im writing this letter to let you know I no more want any further contact with you for the sake of my marriage. I want to work on myself and my relationship with my wife, I realize I made a big mistake and that wasn’t the person I really am. I want to spend the rest of my life with my wife and I hope you understand this. So for the sake of my marriage im going to have to end all contact with you through phone, email, instant messenger, everything. I hope you understand my wife is want is most important to me in my life and I apologize for any hurt I put you through. I want to make my marriage work and be with my wife and I will no longer have any contact with you. Hope you understand.
-Zach
Any suggestions? That looks more like an apologetic love letter than a no contact letter. NC letter should be short and emotionless. Your is a long paragrah full of emotions and feelings. Get to the point of NC without all the "sorries" and leave it at it.
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Sorry I had to come here to vent for a min....Ive left my wife alone and she has to send me this....
sweetlilthang981: n i was going to tell u tanya heard crystal as real nasty so u might want to go get tested
Z a C h B 01: Ok
Z a C h B 01: I will
sweetlilthang981: well just that might b youve had problems with blisters in ur mouth goin down on skylar jill brit her whoever just a tip.
sweetlilthang981: u know we were married 6.5 weeks when u pulled her on ur lap was she that hot in her outfit
sweetlilthang981: well i guess it dont matter u didnt have ur ring on to think of me
Im going to go get tested next week. I went the other week but I had to make an appointment
I know I deserve these things she says to me.
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Sorry I had to come here to vent for a min....Ive left my wife alone and she has to send me this....
sweetlilthang981: n i was going to tell u tanya heard crystal as real nasty so u might want to go get tested
Z a C h B 01: Ok
Z a C h B 01: I will
sweetlilthang981: well just that might b youve had problems with blisters in ur mouth goin down on skylar jill brit her whoever just a tip.
sweetlilthang981: u know we were married 6.5 weeks when u pulled her on ur lap was she that hot in her outfit
sweetlilthang981: well i guess it dont matter u didnt have ur ring on to think of me If you're venting, you're not truly remorseful. You were putting yourself as well as her in risk of getting STDs and HIV. It will take a lot for her to trust you again since you have cheated on her during the honeymoon period. I agree with many others, you're not totally remorseful and totally broken yet for her to trust you again that in the next 6.5 weeks, 6.5 month, 6.5 years you won't do it again.
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Ok your right... Im not as much as venting as in mad. Just hurt I did this to her and I have to listen to her say things like this because I did this to her, she doesnt deserve this!
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Heres my edited letter....
Dear Crystal,
I am writing this letter to you for the sake of me and my wife’s future relationship together. I had made a huge mistake of doing what I did with you. I finally realized during the period of time I spent with you that my wife is more important to me and what I want. I’m writing this letter to let you know I no more want any further contact with you for the sake of my marriage. I want to work on myself and my relationship with my wife I want to spend the rest of my life with my wife. So for the sake of my marriage im going to have to end all contact with you through phone, email, instant messenger, everything. I want to make my marriage work and be with my wife and I will no longer have any contact with you.
-Zach
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Zach,
You and your wife are young, very young. I didn't realize just how young when I was posting to you. You have no kids.
I suggest you both go your separate ways as quickly as possible and begin to focus on some serious growing up.
Zach, you do not begin to comprehend the damage you have done. Recovering from infidelity is a long, painful journey.
There are no children involved (except maybe the bride and groom).
Move on and spend some years working on your walk with the Lord and becoming a man of integrity.
Happily married to HerPapaBear
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SMB- I dont want to ! Ive spent 4 years of my life with her and I love her to death, I cant move on, im going to fight till I sign divorce papers
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Zach, you do not begin to comprehend the damage you have done. Recovering from infidelity is a long, painful journey.
There are no children involved (except maybe the bride and groom).
Move on and spend some years working on your walk with the Lord and becoming a man of integrity. I totally agree with the above three statements.
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So yall are just going to give up on me?
I understand this is going to be long and painful, but i will deal with it and suffer to be with her again, I know im not gaurenteed that. But im willing to fight for her.
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Please tell me you want us to work out. We're married!
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