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Help me please.
My WH and I are working hard at stopping Love Busters.
He keeps bringing up my childhood history of sexual abuse
and has purchased books - Ghosts in the bedroom etc... so he can "understand" me and "HELP" me.
I am extremely uncomfortable reliving all this childhood stuff, but I guess I want to be totally honest with him so I have been getting in touch with all this uncomfortable stuff and talking with him about it. (Really not at all trusting that he would even keep this confidential)
I had years of therapy as a teen and as a young adult but he is sure it is a major cause of our problems.
I am ready to say this is an abusive demand on his part, but I am afraid he will say I am avoiding this HUGE (as he calls it) issue.
Any Advice?
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Dr. Harley often advises on his radio show that it is not good to bring up the past and it is far more effective to focus on the present and future.
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Sorry to interrupt this thread...my understanding is that Harley advocates a past history questionnaire (thats what folks are telling me over on Emotional Needs board).
This is a little different because it is an abuse situation. Churchmouse, has your H been willing to go to counseling with you? It does sound like he is pushing you too hard to deal (or deal again) with a very painful subject. Maybe going to marriage counseling will help - where the counselor can help your H see where your boundaries are.
Good luck!
Last edited by Mrs2; 11/30/07 03:35 PM.
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