Mrs. W,

I asked you on numerous occasions to stop saying the things you were saying that seemed to me to be an effort to cause others to view me in a negative light. I found that you did not honor those boundary lines... and continued for your own reasons irrespective of consideration for my requests.

Regretfully, I put you in ignore. I felt I was not treated with the respect I would require as a minimum in respecting me as a human being with real feelings.

I don't know how to make it more clear that I do not see any good coming out of public attacks on a person.

This is much worse, imo, than what I see happening between political rivals vying for people's "votes".

I think it's time to stop. I'd appreciate you moving on to matters where you have upbuilding things to say.

If not towards me or about me... at least please stop speaking negatively.

I'm certain there is much wonderful good you can do by placing positive focus, attention, and involvement where you can have a positive contribution and view.

God bless.

Hmmm...This is an interesting post...you talk about "obsessing" and "letting go"...I think I'm hearing some projecting...You chose to divorce your husband 10 years ago Laura_Lee...Maybe it's time that you took your own advice...

Mrs. W

But she didn't say anything negative, back. Or is that Laura Lee?

Are you in Michigan, back? My son is up there too.

Those who have nothing positive or beneficial to say... in my ongoing effort to "rise above"... I'm going to now add to my ignore list.

I have "walked away" from numerous persons who were not being positive.

I choose to walk in a different way and do not want to baited into a very negative cycle.

Regretfully, I am putting more people on ignore.

What more can I do? I'm just trying to keep my environment "clean" from baseless rumors, innuendos, slurs, etc.

So... I'm increasing my ignore list and ask those who have posted negatively about me on this thread (in an ongoing effort to ameliorate their own unforgiveness... or whatever it is that fuels such things)... to stop posting to me or about me.

Please focus on positive things you enjoy to bring healing to others and gain healing for your lives.

You are always free to ignore others. Obsessing and being so negative and intrusive... is not healthy behavior and is not good for others either.

I will sincerely be praying for you... but do not want this fight.

God bless.

That sounds very negative and mean spirited, hon...

ba... with the kind of talk that had been occuring... whatever.

All I meant was that I was thinking that with Christmas being here... what was I doing on this site with it's so anti-Christmas type mean-spiritedness.

I wasn't going to "express" my complete thoughts... but what you attribute is outlandish.

It was the equivalent of looking at a crowd and shaking my head.

Not exactly the Christmas spirit around here... and that's all it meant.

Wild conjecture on your part ba... but with the wild accusations being thrown around... I spose someone planted those ideas.

That's what's so destructive about gossip.

I know what you mean about mean spiritedness, back. Can you believe someone was actually so mean as to call other posters "*****" and "****"I was quite shocked to see such hatefulness. Do you not find that behavior shocking, Laura_Lee? I was just shaking my head.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

ba109... boy... tough decision.

I mean... that's just crazy... saying I "escaped from a mental facility"... you "deduced" or something.

I think you may be the only one who I won't put on ignore... but your wild conjecture... really makes me wonder... honestly... how stable can you be?

That's crazy.

Saying you somehow thought that up?

I don't think all of you understand how your remarks seem extremely out of context... and out of nowhere... making things up.

But you've had other decent things to say... hysteria tends to "grip a group"... and people influence others.

I still think about the Salem witch hunts. People became completely irrational as they focussed their minds on things they "thought" they "knew!"

Those people were whipped up into an illogical frenzy, imo... but they thought they saw "evil"... and just went bezerk... not really knowing how far out on a broken limb they had gone.

Did they see *******Salem? I wonder if they got whipped up into an insane frenzy over "****?" Do you see *******, Laura_Lee?

Lord...

you might want to put this person on "ignore" ba109.

She is going to be telling people that you find her wonderful, stupendous, beautiful, glorious, etc...<gag>....etc...<gag>.

People that toot their own horn HAVE to...because no one else will...cause there is NOTHING there to toot about. KWIM?

That is how nondescript this laura person was...I don't ever recall a person under that name and I am sure that the majority of people here didn't either.

Just a small, insignificant person who had to make another persona, come onto the forum and post in an outlandish manner, in order to garner some attention. Because in reality....they get ZERO in the real world. Otherwise, there would be NO reason to go on and on about their wonderful life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I am starting to feel pity...pure pity for this poster.

Her Husband was mercifully saved when she divorced him.

committed

back,

Perhaps I took your post out of context. So be it. As far as planting the idea that you may have some mental health issues...you are doing a pretty good job of planting those ideas all by yourself.

I really don't care whether or not you put my on iggy. Your posts have become boring and it serves me no purpose to read them further as I can not help you or learn from you.

Have a good life.

ba...

When the tone and temper of a discussion is so argumentative as has been on this site... well, hindsight is 20/20.

I should have just ignored people sooner instead of reacting.

No question that I've made mistakes.

Tough crowd, ba109.

It's not often that I think I have been greeted by being called a very derisive name related to a prostitute... etc.

I'd prefer less "targetted" focus.

However, threads continue to be started about me.

I'd like for it to stop and to just meander the board where there can be help and learning.

Again, I'd appreciate it very much if these negative threads would just stop... so things can become helpful and a learning environment can exist.

I apologize if my comments were harmful towards you.

And I would appreciate it very much if this thread were locked.

Life would be better... with less argumentative and unloving threads targetted at persons who want to lead a more peaceful life than strife creates.

I still think there is benefit to the site. But this thread would better be locked because it is just a place for persons to gather and work each other up... focussed on me... when I was minding my own business elsewhere.

I'd appreciate people making a positive effort to help and learn... not tear others down or rip them apart.

committed,

She will be ignored. That's easy enough even without using the ignore feature.

I've become bored with her aimless agenda.

If Laura_Lee/Back keeps putting people on "iggy" MB will become a pretty boring site for her soon enough as well...

Mrs. W

I respectfully request this thread be locked - as the target thereof.

God will work in my heart and my life on His pace - His way.

Just a little respect.

That would be nice.

Back - I would put some more folks on IGNORE. It used to be angainst the MB rules to talk about other folks in a thread.

Also I would not spend my precious time reading this drivel.

I think the key is if the person being discussed is NOT THERE on the thread, believer.

It just gives me the creeps. One of the few times I ever got edited was when I was talking about someone on another thread, and it wasn't even anything bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post2791181


This pretty much confirms the laura presumption for me. And ya know what? Who cares?

Maybe this is the point in time when it all went to heck in a hand basket.