I have been reading more here again lately and realized today that many of the familiar names here have really come such a long, long way. It made me feel all warm inside and it reminded me just why, even though my marriage is recovered, I still come here.

Five years ago, I would have never believed how much I was going to change because of my FWH's affair. Although it hurt like nothing I could have ever imagined, I still have to admit that it has made me a stronger, more compassionate, and just a plain better person.

The new skills that I have had to learn to strenghen and improve my marriage have carried over into the rest of my life.

Sure, my FWH is still sometimes just plain exasperating, but then so am I sometimes. I rarely bother to point out to him the messes he leaves around the house because the new Skirmisher is going to clean them up someday, maybe. I look at it this way. He is home with me leaving tid bits of him all over the house and that is a good thing.

I am so greatful to MB's for all that I have today. I realize that it was FWH and I who did the work, but we got so much help from MB and Jennifer along the way.

I used to look at the new stories here and say to myself, ugh, another poor soul destined for failure just like me. Now, I kind of rub my hands together and say a prayer that they will read the free material, buy the books, listen to the advice and end up where I finally made it.

With each success story I read here, it is like a new beam of sunshine following a cloudy day. It makes me smile, just like looking at a photo of my Grandson.

I can finally look back on the past 4 plus years and say, yes, my FWH made a HUGE mistake. He broke my heart. He nearly drove our marriage to an end.

But I also can now say, he is sorry, he wishes he could undo everything he did that hurt me, hurt us, and he is trying just as hard as I am to be everything he needs to be.

We aren't perfect, but we are still WE.

Who

Who

It's a journey alright. Glad you made it.

Inspirational. I need that right now.
Thank you.

Who,

Thanks for the post. I'm so happy that you were able to recover.

Do you have a thread somewhere that I can read? I would love to know about your experience through this.

Very inspiring, Who. I hope I can be where you are one day, especially when my FWH is the one who wants to give up.

Join me and Pep on MY SATURDAY THREAD...

I hope tomorrow is UNEVENTFUL...

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Thanks for sharing, Who. Even if part of your story is already included, would you be willing to re-post (or link) this inspiring post to the Success Stories thread linked to my sig line? OR is it OK if I do?

Thanks,

Ace

Acey et al,

I'll see If I can find a synopsis of my road to recovery. BTW. loads of excitement at Who-house this weekend. Had a visit from the fire department. Scary, although it only turned out to be a washing machine belt that had melted. It filled my whole basement with really stinky smoke!

Who

WhoMe...Need your advice.

I posted a question but nobody is responding. It's on General Questions II about whether or not my DH is different than other WS.

I really want to be careful about what I believe from him, but I feel like some of what he says is true. COuld you read it and let me know your thoughts? I posted it on my single thread and got no response, so I reposted it alone.

Thanks

HTM,

I'll take a look at it and post when I have a chance. I'm at work right now so it might be a while. By the way, we got married within a few months of each other, did you notice?

Who

Funny...DH and I eloped on 6/20/97 and then had our wedding on 10/25/97. We really were married close to each other. You found out much sooner than I.
THanks.
hick

OK, I posted my story under Acey's GQII Success Stories thread.

Who