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Hi. I could use some help. I have found that my WW has been posting to some "Pro-affair" message boards. I have been frantically searching for some online, but to no avail. Does anyone know of any that I may check?
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Hi. I could use some help. I have found that my WW has been posting to some "Pro-affair" message boards. I have been frantically searching for some online, but to no avail. Does anyone know of any that I may check?
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NSH How did you find out? Do you know the sites she has been on? Has she posted or did you just see from history that she was on the sites?
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I found some info from a journal she was keeping. She talked about posting on her "board".
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well, after I posted to you I did some looking around for your stitch. She knows you post here so she may have seen this post. Is there ANY chance she goes there to tell her story as a warning? I saw that you have a great support group here so maybe some of your MB buddies will chime in.
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No, in her journal, she said that she wants to ride out her affair as long as she can, just like she posted on her boards.
She has not read this post.
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I'm sorry to hear this, as I find it very sickening for others to help support affairs. One that I know of is TOW which is at gloryb. The other is on iVillage.
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Check out iVillage. They have an affair support board-- here's the link: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmyaffairI hope you have a strong stomach-- some of these people are pretty sick and really really foggy. TT PS- The only reason I know this is because I was on the "ending an affair" board for awhile before someone kindly sent me here. I no longer post on iVillage... It isn't NEARLY as useful as here, and quite frankly even the "ending an affair" board gets a lot of whiny WS; and all they do is moan about how much they miss OP.
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Rock - it could be the other woman site - google that of if you still can't figure it out, send me an email.
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No, in her journal, she said that she wants to ride out her affair as long as she can, just like she posted on her boards.
She has not read this post. I am so sorry you are going through this. It seemed in one of your other posts things were going better in Januaryish, then in late February things went down hill fast. I am sorry I can't help you because I don't know what is going on in her head! Do you know what her user name is so you can at least follow her posts? I did go onto the website someone posted and I thought I was going to puke. I am just curious if you could point me to your info (age, how long you have been married, kids etc)
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There is www.gloryb.com sorry to hear this. AF
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If I were you, I'd start working toward plan B which includes legal separation, getting her out of the house, and getting custody if possible. You have been at this too long, and it is time to take the gloves off.
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I am so sorry you are going through this. It seemed in one of your other posts things were going better in Januaryish, then in late February things went down hill fast. I am sorry I can't help you because I don't know what is going on in her head! Do you know what her user name is so you can at least follow her posts? I did go onto the website someone posted and I thought I was going to puke. I thought things were getting better. I have dealt with 4 OMs since October of 2006. OM1 is the one that I'm having trouble with right now. They still work together. I want to apologize to you jmwc. I defended her staying at her job with NC. I guess I was very wrong. Her and the POS have been going at it for almost 3 years now. I learned a lot from her journal page that I found. I learned of a hotel rendezvous and "sessions" in his office. What is really pathetic is that she knows, and he has even bragged, about other women that he is having affairs with, but my WW wrote in her journal that she doesn't care, as long as she gets her turn. Really sad, sick stuff. I found one post by her on the ivillage website, but that is the only one that I saw. Thanks for the help guys and gals.
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her screen name is hardtoquit on the ivillage my affair thread.
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I found two more post by your wife, see if this link works: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n...ffair&msg=50780.27&ctx=0If not, google "hardtoquit AP"
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her screen name is hardtoquit on the ivillage my affair thread. I only found one post by her there. It is in the Feb roll call post, dated Feb 8.
I know that she has been posting somewhere else though. I wish I could find it. Well, I could see you trying to find information if you thought your wife was having an affair but you KNOW she is. From what she wrote on the forums she thinks she can do this without loosing you. I think it is time for a dark plan B.
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I am so sorry you are going through this. It seemed in one of your other posts things were going better in Januaryish, then in late February things went down hill fast. I am sorry I can't help you because I don't know what is going on in her head! Do you know what her user name is so you can at least follow her posts? I did go onto the website someone posted and I thought I was going to puke. I thought things were getting better. I have dealt with 4 OMs since October of 2006. OM1 is the one that I'm having trouble with right now. They still work together. I want to apologize to you jmwc. I defended her staying at her job with NC. I guess I was very wrong. Her and the POS have been going at it for almost 3 years now. I learned a lot from her journal page that I found. I learned of a hotel rendezvous and "sessions" in his office. What is really pathetic is that she knows, and he has even bragged, about other women that he is having affairs with, but my WW wrote in her journal that she doesn't care, as long as she gets her turn. Really sad, sick stuff. I found one post by her on the ivillage website, but that is the only one that I saw. Thanks for the help guys and gals. I believe this needs to be exposed to her employer. What would her family think? Also, isn't at least one your children old enough to expose to as well (older than 10)? You need to speak with a lawyer and prepare for a dark plan B. ASAP. Plan A has run its course and will obviously not work. Oh, and I don't think I need to tell you to align yourself with OMW.
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That really is some sick, SICK stuff. I wish I hadn't gone looking...
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Sounds like this is a lifestyle for her. She may even believe you are not going to leave even if you find out again.
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That is some disgusting stuff. Your wife sounds like a cake-eater for certain. How would she react if other important people in her life realize she is an unrepentant adulterer?
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Yup. Pretty sick stuff. It is strange. 10 years ago my wife used to visit the bereaved parent boards on that same site after our son died. Never thought she would be on the affair support board there.
Thanks for the help all!
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