Since finding out about my fwh infidelity trust by far has been my huge issue. Although we agree on just about everything as far as what's appropriate and what's not I still have some concern. I know that I can't stop my fwh from doing things but sometimes even innocent things I seem to be able to find something that "could" happen. My fwh is a friendly guy, and not that I don't like that trait in him it scares me, he would be the one to help anyone who is need of help, which again is a nice thing but He is friendly to everyone and maybe it's just me but if he were in the checkout line talking casually with the cashier maybe his friendliness could make a female feel warmed and comfortable if she were interested maybe she could think he's flirting, maybe it's his tone of voice I don't know, he talks the same to most everyone except guys, unless it's an older man maybe that he doesn't know, maybe this bothers me so much because that's basically how his ons started, then went to him being so kind to help her. He insists he's just being a normal nice guy. We also have a disagreement about one of his hobbies. He likes to dirtbike ride, I go 99% of the time, but there are the occassions I can't go, I feel uncomfortable with him going mainly because a couple of the guys he meets out there i'm not so sure about them, one of them cheated on his wife although he has never discussed it with my fwh, we know from our daughter who knows his son. He thinks because he doesn't "hang" around these guys other than maybe a phone call here and there and to go ride it's innocent to ride and I shouldn't worry, it's in the woods. Maybe I feel this way because I feel if I'm uncomfortable with something he shouldn't do it, but then again I don't want to be unreasonable either. So how do you come to what's ok and what's not and agree on things and feel comfortable about it? Thanks