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Hope,
This thread isn't about what the WW is doing, but how we don't stick to either Plan and create our own path that doesn't work.
I love you girl, but the time for you and me to really change what is bringing us down emotionally isn't just the WW, it's ourselves and our thought processes. Does that make sense? f
I don't have an answer on this, but I am praying for the willingness on it for sure.
BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
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Oh yeah, I was the biggest Plan C'er 'round these parts. Back and forth between Plan A and Plan B via the LB route in between with with a detour to Lack of Conditions Enforcement.
Like Puppy, I thought because my WH said he loved me, didn't want a D, etc. that he was different. Plan C is thinking you are in a great recovery and not really verifying it. Surprise, 5 months later found out A never ended. Some spectacular cake-eating right under the my sorry [censored].
Found out the hard way that WS's are all the SAME. Chai..... This post spoke VOLUMES to me last night. I was having a hard time sleeping, not liking my current situation and now we know why. My WS is pulling this crap on me and the BIGGEST difference is I know it. I know what can happen....I've read it, I've seen it.....and I DO NOT WANT THIS.... Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for posting this as a reminder for a member is ready to move out of Plan C to Plan B.... not2fun
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Thanks Pep! ...Plan C is not reading everything Pepperband has written before deciding on a plan of action  
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It is trying to fix it to save it instead of saving it so it can be fixed Wow!... Yes!!!! Thanks Mark L2F
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I thought that quote from Mark was absolutely fantastic, too, L2F...amazing!!
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Nope! :tonguestickingouticon:
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Many of you have posted on my thread and I understand from reading this that I am in Plan C...
My prayer for myself and all others in Plan C is that we find our way beyond this plan and fully accept the magnitude of the task ahead, embrace the things that we need to do, and fortify ourselves in the mindset to do it.
That said, and knowing that Plan C is not a plan, it does feel kind of nice to know that I'm not the only one who has started there before figuring it out. I guess it's true that misery loves company...and so do crazy people.
HTM
BW 37 (Me).
F?WH 35.
06/97 Married.
Three sons...4, 5, and 7.
06/04 EA begins (Unknown to me).
02/10/05 D-Day EA (Unknown PA).
02/24/08 D-Day LTA 3+ YEARS! (same OW).
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I guess it's true that misery loves company...and so do crazy people. LOL..SHHH..I hope Mr. NOT2 doesn't read this...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Not2,
Glad you see it. I didn't. I learned my hardest lesson:
THEY ARE ALL THE SAME - PERIOD.
I've repeated that to myself a million times.
Maybe if I say it over and over and click my heals, I'll end up in some wonderful place away from all this bullship. You think?
BS - me 56
XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me
Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
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I guess it's true that misery loves company...and so do crazy people. LOL..SHHH..I hope Mr. NOT2 doesn't read this... Mimi.... Are stirring the pot??? (insert rolley eyes here.....)
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Maybe if I say it over and over and click my heals, I'll end up in some wonderful place away from all this bullship. You think? Hmmmm....if it works let me know.....  On a serious note, Mr. Not still reads my thread (he despises Mimi....) and gets mad at everyone here saying that they don't "understand" our situation and that "we" are different.....(now I REALLY need the rolley eye guy....) not2fun
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I want to hear about what's going on with YOU, NOT.
IMO, wasted breath and typing space talking about how HE FEELS about ME...
It really doesn't matter about HIM...Period..
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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And BTW, Not2, I'm getting really bothered by you continuing to report about what your WH thinks about ME or anyone else.
Bottom line, Not2
Do YOU want to work on recovering your marriage?
If YOU do, I will join with others in helping you.
Otherwise, I don't care to hear about what your WH thinks about me.
It's your choice to SHARE but it's a waste of MY TIME to read about it...
SORRY...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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OF COURSE HE DOES, Not2...he is a foggy-[censored] wayward...DUH!!!!!!!!!
I hope he hates me, too...it means the addict is thrashing about when anyone says he needs help. I can just picture him stomping around the house (or his empty condo) and cursing us in his best whiny wayward voice...
"They are IDIOTS...they don't know ME...they think they know EVERYTHING!!!"
SOMEBODY CALL THE WAAAAAABULANCE!!!!!!!
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...so what I'm hearing is...
Plan C is putting more emphasis on what your WS thinks and feels than on how you do...
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Hmmmmm.....what was Plan C again????.....  
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plan c is apparently Plan CAN'T seem to do what I KNOW I NEED TO DO.
that would be my guess.
plan allowing my h to continue to CONTROL the situation and continue to have CONTACT with ow and not giving him any reason to stop CONTACT.
those enough plan c's for ya not 2??
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SOMEBODY CALL THE WAAAAAABULANCE!!!!!!! LMAO I think I here the siren now...Do you hear it too? WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WWWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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mlhb.....
hon...that was rhetorical....just a joke...lightening the mood....I'm in a silly mood today....Happy Mother's day btw.....I will update my sitch sometime soon.....
not2fun
ps....Happy mothers day to Chai and my girl Mimi....
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Plan C is putting more emphasis on what your WS thinks and feels than on how you do... Good one L2F.....put that one up there with Marks....(which byw I put on my bathroom mirrow with a dry earase marker...first thing for me to look at morning....) not2fun
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