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Quick questions for those experienced at MB.
Is it really possible for a couple to fall in love again after an affair? I mean really fall in love again?
My WW has been back under the same roof as me for 15 weeks now and I am satisfied that no contact with OM has taken place for the last 3½ weeks. OM has deleted WW's details from several of his online accounts and his Skype acccount. We live in Australia and OM lives in England so the only contact since May has been through email, IM and phone.
However, despite us having regular SF, taking trips together and spending virtually all of our free time together WW says she's not in love with me and doesn't want us to permanently sleep in the same room until she 'feels in love again'.
I have of course heard this successfully happening from Dr. Harley but wanted to hear from those who have walked the walk. WW and I have been very much in love for most of our 9 years together. I am somewhat hopeful for our marriage but am still keeping expectations in check.
thanks,
GH31
Me: 36
FWW: 36
1 son born in Dec 2009 - confirmed mine through DNA test
1 daughter born in Nov 2010
Together: 13½ years
Married: 10 years
PA/EA: January 2008 to July 2009
FWW left for OM: 01/28/2008
FWW returned for 9 days: 04/2008
FWW returned 05/21/2008
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3.5 weeks is nothing. SHe's still in withdrawal.
Yes it is totally possible to fall in love again. My wife and I did.
How long was her affair? Was it a PA?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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It is possible to fall in love again. I am the FWW and I thought at one point I couldnt fall back in love with DH. But I have and it gets better every day.
Keep positive. I agree 3wks out is to soon to tell. Just keep showing your WW how important she really is. I also how she is showing you as well so withdrawls from your Love Bank do not happien to often.
Best of luck
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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Hi Big Kahuna,
Affair started at the end of January 2008 and was a PA until May 2008, then it continued as an EA after WW joined me in Australia. WW lived with OM between February and May. As far as I can tell (and I have been thoroughly snooping) there has been no contact for 3½ weeks. I would agree that WW is still in withdrawal since she has said a few deranged things but when we took a three day road trip into the Australian Outback she seemed better, and we made love quite a lot. In fact, things seem better when we are together but not at home.
Really appreciate your input. How long did it take for love to be restored in your case?
thanks,
GH31
Me: 36
FWW: 36
1 son born in Dec 2009 - confirmed mine through DNA test
1 daughter born in Nov 2010
Together: 13½ years
Married: 10 years
PA/EA: January 2008 to July 2009
FWW left for OM: 01/28/2008
FWW returned for 9 days: 04/2008
FWW returned 05/21/2008
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GH31 yes it is. I was the WS. I HATED my DH and wanted to hurt him as much as I could .... now I can't understand why he ever put up with that B*tch. :RollieEyes: Love the ground he walks on now 
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
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