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Ok,
I have my weekly MC tonight. WH and I have been going for about 2 months now. It had started off with just me going as IC and then WH had asked if he could attend with me knowing that our marriage was having issues and he wanted to work on our marriage.
Of course, this was prior to D-Day #2!!!
D-Day # 2 occurred on 9/12... 2 days after one of our sessions wherein he proclaimed his love for me and his wanting to improve our marriage...
talk about blowing smoke up someones you know what?!?!@#
Anyways, I'm torn because he indicates he does not want to go tonight, not ready to.. I'm not going to force the issue but it hurts. But then again it also hurts knowing that when we did attend our session on 9/10, we met separately as I was at my D16 game so I told WH just to meet me there.. come to find out, he used that time in between with OW at their favorite smooching spot and even took a picture of her car in front of his just 10 minutes before our appointment.
Gosh that makes me SOOOOO freaking angry..
So, should I care whether or not he wants to go as I wonder will there just be more lies since I don't feel he had been honest or sincere for those 2 months he attended...
Advice?
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"Marriage Counseling" does not help when there's an active affair. "Marriage Coaching" with the Harley's WILL help and give YOU a plan to follow.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Since my MC is also a LCSW I find that solo sessions help me work through the issues that run across my mind. Unaccounted time, picturing what happened in my mind, etc. It may not heml the marriage but it helps me.
Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable and remove yourself from the unacceptable.
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