Oh and email history.

This is not good, you won't hear me say otherwise. I deleted the emails to in my mind, cut all potentially suspicious contacts. "Well none of these people mean anything to me, so keeping them makes it seem like they do... so... I'll delete them!"

I can see this as an avoidance tactic. I didn't trust him to see any communication as reasonable. Short of it, I didn't trust him. I deleted the emails because I didn't trust him. So I attempted to control the situation by removing him from the decision process about whether or not any of what all I deleted was worrisome.

"I wore those items to get a mineral body wrap and then they spent a good 6 months in the back of a car that I transported dogs in, moldering in a plastic bag."

Honestly, this is disgusting...

I didn't even know that people still manufactured stockings and quite frankly haven't seen anyone actually wear them in at least a decade... Especially for walking dogs.

You bruise quite easily? So do I but I can say that I've never had parallel finger shaped bruises on my thighs and buttock area. Were they on both sides?

And, you were moaning inside Macy's? This is odd.

In all seriousness, your explanations don't add up.

Why the deletion of all emails? Why the closing of certain windows when he came into the room. These are all signs that someone is trying to hide something.

It looks like you are just not able to deal with honesty. Your story just does not add up. Plain and simple.

Um... putting my hand over the child's mouth? An easy explanation there is that didn't happen and that's not what he said. My son clammed up of his own accord.

Actually I meant your son putting his own hand over his face.


I was referring to the inappropriate conversation he overheard that added to his doubt. I can't remember it exactly but it was talking about not having sex without a condom with people you didn't know or something. Now you may have been joking around but still that can be interpreted in another way also.

I assume you are reading Grendels's posts.

His first post is quite descriptive. Its truly hard for any of us that have experience with this stuff not to see major flags, even your answer do not have that ring of truth....(a dog making finger shaped bruises on your inner thighs??? cmon.)

The most important thing you can do give Grendel the truth. With the truth you have a chance. If he has to find it himself, you don't. You must do whatever it takes for him to KNOW and feel comfortable that he truly knows what is happening in his own life. Lie-detectors, DNA, recovering the data on your computer...whatever it takes.

For you to let him make choices and decisions without the WHOLE truth is manipulative and deceitful. He "married" you without full knowledge. This child is on the way without his full knowledge. Can you see how unfair it is of you to allow him to make LIFE ALTERING choices and decisions without FULL KNOWLEDGE of the truth?

I know you must be scared. You're about to have another child. You have moved to a new place, and have to trust this person to protect you. And I think your lies come from that fear. You have to let go of your fear.

Of course I am reading his posts, all of the posts.

And about the bruises, obviously I am saying they were not finger shaped bruises. They were more slender than my fingers. And, no matter how hard Grendel tried, he couldn't reproduce any such marks, and he did try.

The bruises were on both sides, and symmetrical. They were thinner than a finger, but not thinner than a bone, the solid surface that would create such a bruise in my scenario. And they did seem to line up with a hand, though it would have been a larger hand than mine, and stronger, too.

'J' is a male friend, not female. That was why I was disturbed by the conversation.

As long as the lies flow like the river nile there will always be denile.

what were the results of the DNA test done on the shirt, You found by accident, concluded with?

Oops, you didn't follow thru on that did you?

Don't understand what the hesitation is.

The rest is all he said, she said.

Use the science and be done with this.

All Blessings,
Jerry

So what caused these bruises?

I don't think you replied.

Jerry

If you're not having or have not had an A then I will go out and sleep with a prostitute!

Yeah, I love the actually helpful posts ~rolls eyes~ I hope prostitutes aren't illegal in your area.


To the other posters, Yes, I did respond to the bruises. Two Australian shepards. One of the times I took care of Moomba and Kai, they jumped and wounded me so it looked like I was a chronically failed IV drug user.

There has never been any hesitation on my part about sending these things in for dna testing. There has been no hesitation in me to take a polygraph. It offends his sensibilities-- it does me too but I am willing, nay eager for it because I know I will be vindicated.

And if I'm not? Well then nuthouse here I come!