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My husband filed for a divorce last year, but it was dismissed by the judge. I even have a copy of the order to dismiss without prejudice and I'm pretty sure the judge sent him a certified copy.

She keeps saying he really divorced me because he showed her the actual divorce decree papers...but it was dismissed, not granted.

He was even served with child custody and visitation papers 1 month ago and I checked the box that stated we are still married and not divorced. So he should've seen that...he didn't dispute it.

He's lying to her right....either that or they both don't know how to interpret the order.

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send the OW a copy of your documents. She can also check online with the court because it is a public record.


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Because he is lying to her, and fool that she is, she believes him.

If it were me, I would send the proof to her, too.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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Why does the OW think my WH and I are divorced?

Now hear this:
Because WS's Llllliiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeee!

I wish they had a yelling icon!

At least you know he's lying to her. Not you on this one.


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Him; H 46

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DD16
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Yup! Waywards lie!

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Originally Posted by barbiecat
Why does the OW think my WH and I are divorced?

Now hear this:
Because WS's Llllliiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeee!

I wish they had a yelling icon!

At least you know he's lying to her. Not you on this one.

Yes i agree WSs LLLLLLLLIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!

To the BS, to the OP, to their friends and family, they lie lie lie!!!!!

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I am shocked that a cheater would lie!! faint


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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He is lying to her.

Heck, my WW's OM informed me during an unplanned run in with OM that WW and I are, in fact, divorced. That was over 6 months ago, we are still married to this day.

It is actually very easy to tell when a wayward is lying. If they are talking, it's a lie.

I think they even get to the point where they belive there lies, atleast on the surface.


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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
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Originally Posted by Gack1
It is actually very easy to tell when a wayward is lying. If they are talking, it's a lie.

That's funny! rotflmao


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