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Ugotta:

Ugotta STOP.

You have BLOWN UP your family.

And your blaming your mother-in-law because she folds the childrens clothes. And helps give your children a SAFE and SECURE place to live.

Sheesh.

LOOK what they DID! CAN you BELIEVE THAT!

STOP THAT.

YOU BLEW THIS UP.

You need SOMEONE to love you?

Great. You had that. You threw it away. You EVEN had someone else, and SHE realizes that you a POS too.

STOP THE PITY PARTY. THE WAAAAAHHHH BUS stops now.

Accept that you caused all this.

Accept that you can ONLY FIX Yourself.

Live a GOOD life.

Be the BEST Dad you can be NOW.

And maybe, just MAYBE, your STBxW will notice.
She might notice that your acting like the MAN she met originally.
She might notice that all your wayward fogginess is gone.
She might even notice YOU before she notices someone else.

None of it matters if you don't work on yourself.

Keep your interactions with her to a professional courtoeus manner. Don't try to educate her. The "Fireproof" movie was a HUGE DJ to her. "How do you know you don't need it?" She should have hung UP right there.

BS to UGT: (Scene, about four months ago, in the Kitchen) "Hey, UGT, heres some info from Dr. Harley about saving marriages after an Affair. Its a really good book called "Surviving an Affair, I really think it could help you!"

UGT: "What do you mean? I'm not in an AFFAIR? WE ARE OVER. Keep your silly book to yourself! I don't need your book, I need a Divorce book!

BS: "How do you know you don't need it?"

Repeat your conversation from the other night, except in reverse.

Work on yourself.

The rest will play out.

LG

That's a crappy attitude. If your BW ever gives you another chance, you best drop that attitude about her family supporting her especially in a time of need. You had an A to insulate yourself in lalaland and you have the nerve to complain that MIL should let BW "realistically" deal with the crap you've dumped on her? You're lucky MIL is even civil to you. Inside, she probably wants to knock your head off but she has to be there for daughter and grandbabies. BW lets her mother watch the kids before you because she KNOWS she can depend on her mother, not you. Even if your BW never gives you another chance, you need to lose that messed up logic anyway.