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Well be compassionate to her but be direct and stress the urgency of the situation. I would not hestitate to tell BW that your WW is waiting for her WH to dump her either...light the fire.
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We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I have scheduled a counseling appointment tonight with Harleys.
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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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RTQ,
Send Steve an email NOW detailing your story, yrs married, Dday, kids, etc,,,,your history and what has occurred to date.
It'll save precious & expensive time if he already has this info infront of him while he talks to you.
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Re expose and the new boss as well.
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I should expose to the new boss as well?
There is a very real chance they will fire WW, even though the old boss has been fired and gone since Sept.
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I would not expose to the new boss.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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RTQ, Ask Steve this evening re exposing to new boss. Since OM no longer works there, I bet Steve will say it's not necessary,,,,, But-- ask him. He's the professional. 
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Well I talked to the OMW. Wonderful christian woman. She knew her husband and my wife were still talking. She stays in constant prayer for her family and mine and has turned her husband over to God.
A few things she said:
- she had no idea until DDay and he was fired
- not sure if her husband loves my wife
- he has always been a kind christian man
- not sure if he will leave for my wife
A Godly woman who is praying her husband returns to God, even if he leaves her.
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Well I talked to the OMW. Wonderful christian woman. Send her here! Just be sure to tell her to keep it from her WH until they are in recovery.
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I did. I strongly suggested this site to her several times.
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 I'm get a doormat vibe from this one. I hope I'm wrong.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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I did. I strongly suggested this site to her several times. Don't do that. You will hinder your own plans if she comes here and recognizes you.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Well A Godly woman who is praying her husband returns to God, even if he leaves her. Unfortunately, a godly woman without a plan. Turning her husband over to god is hope, it's not a plan. If she wants to save her family she needs to take concrete steps to do so. Prayer can be a part of that of course but it cannot be the whole plan. Did you talk to her about snooping and verifying NC on her end?
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She said she asked her husband if they are talking and he said yes. That was all she shared.
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Don't do that. You will hinder your own plans if she comes here and recognizes you. How will she do that? We're talking about OMW.
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I'm get a doormat vibe from this one. I hope I'm wrong. This is the very reason she ought to come here.
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Don't do that. You will hinder your own plans if she comes here and recognizes you. How will she do that? We're talking about OMW. I know we are talking about OMW here but he really knows nothing about this woman. Last thing he needs is a doormat BW who might get scared and blab to OM who blabs to WW about MB. I would not jeopardize a plan with the unknown at this point. OMW is still a wildcard.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
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Ahhh, ok. I see your point.
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Just talked to wife. Remember I told her to be out of house today. She said she call OM. Told him we were getting divorce. He said he didn't know what he would do about his marriage.
WW said she loves him. And has to have him in her life, even if its just to talk.
WW said loves me, doesnt want divorce but has begged me for months for time to sort out her feelings.
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