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Bon voyage.
Have a safe journey.
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I hope so. I'm shaking badly...why?
I'm LEAVING something scary so why am I this upset over safety?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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... because you are headed into the unknown.
Be brave.
You are starting your adventure.
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Just called a cab. Oh goodness. I'm still shaky...
I shouldn't be too worried, I have $790 and a direct deposit paycheck coming this Thursday from my job.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I'm LEAVING something scary so why am I this upset over safety? Because you are leaving everything you have ever known......... THAT is scary...... BUT can be wonderful......if you want it..... Oh....and you really don't need "experience" to waitress...... You'll do fine.......of that I have no doubts...... 
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When you get there and settled you can start a new thread or rename this one..... "The Many Adventures of Karma".........  (yep, I still crack myself up!!!!!!!)
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They're asking questions. I'll have to move quickly. Shutting computer off.
She's calling herself crazy for trying to help "a strathead."
My brother is comparing me to the prodigal son.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I have no license, WTF...okay. I'll be okay. I'll be fine.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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ALright, logging off. You might see me again if the bus has wi-fi.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I have been blocked successfully.
My grandmother saw me packing and my brother called my uncle.
"You'll kill her if you do this" my uncle said. "You won't have money. You won't know how to do anything. You'll be just like your mother."
And yes, the taxi was successfully blocked as well.
I need some advice here...how can I get out under all this guilty weight thrown at me? My grandmother even said she would disown me if I did this.
I need to get out without being stopped. When no one is here. But how can I do that NOW? They've been watching me like hawks.
My uncle talked to my father and he says he'll move out tomorrow night. You have no idea how many times it is that I have heard that...
I need someone to talk to about this.
Did I forget the part about, oh, my grandmother saying she would disown me if I did this?
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One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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They pull out all the stops to keep their tilting mobile balanced - and if you take yourself off that mobile, they have to find out how to balance again.
Leave during the day - while you're at work, or whatever. but leave. Let her disown you. Empty threat, if you ask me.
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What do I do with my luggage? Since I have no license (just a learner's) they are how I get to work and around and whatnot.
How have I stayed this blind this long?
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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I agree with Kayla. Leave from work if you need to in order to avoid their attempts to keep you in their dysfunction. Also, please ignore the manipulations of "you will kill her if you leave" and "I'll disown you" of "you will be just like your mother...." You know what gaslighting is, and you've heard some of the best manipulative fogbabble sounds like...it's kind of the same. Do you have any friends or co-workers who have some BIG brothers or cousins who might be able to help you get to the bus station? It never hurts to have a few large guys around to help...and run interference for those who want to block you from leaving. Just an idea... 
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I'm perfectly willing to do that...again, what about my luggage? I don't really have friends or a place (near work that is) that I can rely upon to keep the luggage.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Do you have a friend who can carry your luggage out for you and shield you from them?
And I would tell your grandmother this: "Let me leave in peace, and I'll keep in touch. Force me to leave under duress and with your threats, it will take longer for me to get over this. I'm leaving. I'm old enough. It's final."
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No. I have no friends that can do that.
And what of my uncle? He's picking me up from work tomorrow to try and further talk me out of it.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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How much luggage do you have? Could you put it into a couple of backpacks or duffel bag? My boys (21 and 18) have military style duffels that they can pack quite full, then put the straps over their shoulders like a backpack. You could carry that to work maybe and store it in the break room?
Is there anyone at work that you can confide in about this? They might be able to pick you up and let you keep your luggage in their car for a few hours?
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Why does your Uncle want you to stay in this situation? What's the pay-off for him?
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If you have to, start taking stuff to work, a day at a time, backpack full - ship it via USPS to your future roommates - if it fits in the box, it ships for flat rate priority mail. Then the last day, take your lap top in your back pack and disappear.
Is there a library nearby where you can check out "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend?
There's a line in it - if you tell someone "no" - and if they love you they will respect it. If they don't, they don't love you - not the way you need to be loved. I would quote that line - Cloud and Townsend are Christian ministers and have some awesome information in that book.
Keep reminding yourself - you're an adult and this is your choice. They can get in your way if they want to, but you will leave. Start telling people NO! and Mean It!
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Why does your Uncle want you to stay in this situation? What's the pay-off for him? I think the family's seriously invested in Karma being the caretaker and buffer between grandma and drunk dad.
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